what is your best books to overcome social phobia and anxiety ?
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I'm not sure hiding behind the book is the best idea 
I think we should talk to people and socialize instead, these books don't have any magical formulas, they only tell us what we want to hear but other people can also do that by praising and motivating us with compliments so we can get more self-esteem and face people with more confidence
I think we should talk to people and socialize instead, these books don't have any magical formulas, they only tell us what we want to hear but other people can also do that by praising and motivating us with compliments so we can get more self-esteem and face people with more confidence
anxiety1408
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I'm not sure hiding behind the book is the best idea
True to an extent, But we shouldn't get more self esteem via peoples compliments ^^ like they say, when you believe them when they tell you how much they rock, then you'l believe them when they tell you how much you suck. You shouldn't let anyones positive or negative comments affect you just take it in as feedback.
exactly then we get dependant on their opinion... I don't read much unfortunately so I really can't say, but perhaps someone with a solid philosophy of life? event-hough we should all develop ours,
Nowadays I'm immune to compliments anyway usually when people give me one it's because they expect something back, say a ride home or something
dependant on their opinion... I don't read much unfortunately so I really can't say, but perhaps someone with a solid philosophy of life? event-hough we should all develop ours,Nowadays I'm immune to compliments anyway
usually when people give me one it's because they expect something back, say a ride home or something
anxiety1408
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exactly then we get
Nowadays I'm immune to compliments anyway
Yup thats it we always become dependant on others opinions and might even go doing things searching for a positive opinion of another, Im a bit different I take compliments and it makes me feel great so obviously that means I also take in negative comments and let it affect me.. Im too dependant on others opinions and I need to work on that because its not going to do me any good..
But that's a good trait since you are concerned about what others think of you, hehe just accept the nice comments then sometimes when somebody says something about us, that may seem offensive to us but to that person that would be a compliment x)
sometimes when somebody says something about us, that may seem offensive to us but to that person that would be a compliment x)
anxiety1408
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But that's a good trait since you are concerned about what others think of you, hehe just accept the nice comments then
lol But the thing is it becomes a problem when you are concerned about what others think about you more than what you feel/think, lol It couldn;t work like that taking in all the nice comments :
: Because your taking others opinions to be meaningful to you and make yourself out of it, whether its positive or negative is another matter True sometimes people don't mean things in the way we take them in...first we need to respect ourselves and see good traits that we praise and are glad to have we need to be autonomous in what concerns self-esteem if we depend on someone to realize we're worth something then we're doing something wrong.
if we depend on someone to realize we're worth something then we're doing something wrong.
anxiety1408
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first we need to respect ourselves and see good traits that we praise and are glad to have we need to be autonomous in what concerns self-esteem
Yeah thats it, Its self esteem, We have to know our good traits/like ourself/ believe in ourself first than peoples negative opinions can be seen from a different perspective and have less an effect if any..
is vodka a book?
We all need to develop a giant ego like my dad, even-though he's an obnoxious creature, he thinks very highly of himself xD he really overshadows my little realistic ego
anxiety1408
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haha we need to work on our self esteem, I want to be confident/feel confident but not be big headed thats a turn off for me lol
Do you guys reckon I can find a cheap ego on e-bay xP?
good suggestion Kato the title doesn't motivate me to read it though haha I feel like hitting the mother****er who wrote it without knowing what it's about xD
the title doesn't motivate me to read it though haha I feel like hitting the mother****er who wrote it without knowing what it's about xDgood suggestion Kato
The reading would only be for taking a lighter look at ourselves and having a good laugh at our human experience.
Certainly not to be taken seriously.:
:I need to get my dad this book and for some other arrogant people as well! will make wonders to break their huge egos