He there,
Sorry for this depressing post, I just need to vent...
Tomorrow (well, in 12 minutes) is my birthday and it should be a happy day right ?
I just don't feel it... I'm 1 year away from my thirties and I just can't see how and when it is going to get better. A few years ago, I had very very few friends and since then, I moved to another part of the country for my job and needless to say, my social life is now a giant blackhole.
I go to work in the morning, come back to my place in the evening and just stay inside. Don't misunderstand me, I like my job and I'm doing well at it, but right now, my life is my work and nothing else.
How can I be 29 and not ever had been in a relationsip, let alone a "fling" ? When I was young and other people "learned" how to make friends and have fun, I don't know what I was doing, but I definitely skipped this learning process and feel that it's kinda too late to learn now. If I'm not able to make new friends, how can I even hope to one day get a girlfriend and have children which I'd like and long to... But I'm slowly getting to the truth that it just won't happen, that when I'll be an old man, if I even get there, I'll just be alone and no one will even care of how I'm doing...
Every single thing makes me uncomfortable. Can't take the elevator with other people, even if it only for less than a minute. Can't stand waiting in a line. I can't even walk without fearing that other people might think I walk funny (I have feet problems, which makes me limp a little) . Small talk is so difficult for me, I just don't know what to say. I'm constantly second guessing myself on things I've said or done and how other people could have perceived it. Going to social events, alone since I don't have any one to ask to go with me, is (was) so uncomfortable that I don't even try to go anymore.
I came to these forums about 8 years ago when things were pretty bad and had some very dark thoughts. Back then, I wouldn't call him a friend, but someone lifted my spirit a little and then came the work and I just what I'd call "survive" one day at a time. Nothing really got better I just stopped caring and today, all those thoughts came rushing back of what am I doing with my life and what can I f*****g do about anyway...
Again, sorry if I've depressed you, this was not my intent. I dont know, the fact that Its my birthday and that I know that save my parents and brothers, no one will even care about it is kinda hard to take. Harder than previous years.
Does it get better or should I just give up ?
Sorry for this depressing post, I just need to vent...
Tomorrow (well, in 12 minutes) is my birthday and it should be a happy day right ?
I just don't feel it... I'm 1 year away from my thirties and I just can't see how and when it is going to get better. A few years ago, I had very very few friends and since then, I moved to another part of the country for my job and needless to say, my social life is now a giant blackhole.
I go to work in the morning, come back to my place in the evening and just stay inside. Don't misunderstand me, I like my job and I'm doing well at it, but right now, my life is my work and nothing else.
How can I be 29 and not ever had been in a relationsip, let alone a "fling" ? When I was young and other people "learned" how to make friends and have fun, I don't know what I was doing, but I definitely skipped this learning process and feel that it's kinda too late to learn now. If I'm not able to make new friends, how can I even hope to one day get a girlfriend and have children which I'd like and long to... But I'm slowly getting to the truth that it just won't happen, that when I'll be an old man, if I even get there, I'll just be alone and no one will even care of how I'm doing...
Every single thing makes me uncomfortable. Can't take the elevator with other people, even if it only for less than a minute. Can't stand waiting in a line. I can't even walk without fearing that other people might think I walk funny (I have feet problems, which makes me limp a little) . Small talk is so difficult for me, I just don't know what to say. I'm constantly second guessing myself on things I've said or done and how other people could have perceived it. Going to social events, alone since I don't have any one to ask to go with me, is (was) so uncomfortable that I don't even try to go anymore.
I came to these forums about 8 years ago when things were pretty bad and had some very dark thoughts. Back then, I wouldn't call him a friend, but someone lifted my spirit a little and then came the work and I just what I'd call "survive" one day at a time. Nothing really got better I just stopped caring and today, all those thoughts came rushing back of what am I doing with my life and what can I f*****g do about anyway...
Again, sorry if I've depressed you, this was not my intent. I dont know, the fact that Its my birthday and that I know that save my parents and brothers, no one will even care about it is kinda hard to take. Harder than previous years.
Does it get better or should I just give up ?