What do your parents think about your anxiety?

[Anxiety_Tom]

Hey guys.

I'm curious as to how your parents take your anxiety issues.

I have 2 great parents, but when it comes down to my anxiety issues they really don't understand. My father will just say 'grow up' 'get a life' 'get over it' and things like that. It makes me so damn angry when he says things like that, I could smash plates over his head.

My mother is quite the same aswell and I thought she'd understand better because when she was my age she experienced the exact same thing I did, but now she's gotten rid of it she's turned arogant about it all.

The worse phrase I've had off her is 'you need locking up.'

My brothers and sisters are assholes about it and they just poke fun to me about it all the time. They seem to make my problems 10x worse.

So guys, how do your parents take it?

 

[madmike]

I think they probably do understand, but just think that by encouraging you to go on about it they would just be making things worse for you. Try not to let it worry you. Use this forum where people who are currently suffering from what you're suffering can get together and share ideas/experiences, and discuss other things with your parents.

I've never told my parents about my social anxiety, but i do discuss things like friends and why i can't seem to make any, depression and other stuff. Try talking to them but in a way to let them know you'd like advice and you feel you're really having problems with the issue. They should be more understanding then

 

[Seven]

Oh, how nice.


I could never tell my mother about it. I'm afraid she couldn't understand it.
She knew I was being bullied at school but I didn't tell her much about it. And about the SA ... she might think I'm a bit too shy.

 

[SongsofInnocence]

They don't really get how pervasive this disorder is...I've tried to explain but they just sorta shrug me off.. :roll:

 

[Anxiety_Tom]

Maybe I was too harsh on my mother in the opening post.

The thing that pisses me off is that in her younger years she also suffered with terrible anxiety and a really bad social phobia. She literally couldn't walk out of the door and she was house bound for ages.

With her experiencing it kinda makes me feel like she's the only one that can 100% relate with me. Maybe it just pisses her off them I feel down all the time.

 

[ioanna]

they dont understand and if they do they wont say anything..so i pretent to be ok

 

[Birdman]

they dont understand, they dont know how it feels to have social anxiety. If you have parents that support you then you are so lucky, i wish i had parents like that.

 

[Zarrix]

havent bothered even mentioning anything like it, have no idea if they suspect anything either. I seem to get edgy over the most trivial of stuff, like if an ad comes on TV which even remotely criticizes anything I stand for, or if something comes on that im interested in, but don't want the people around me to know that. I literally cannot stay in the loungeroom if anything remotely sexual is mentioned on tv if other family is in there.

 

[Liz17]

My mum use to be brilliant with me, so supportive. Unfortunately she seems to be getting very short tempered with me, and is taking a colder stance on it which if she thinks its helping me shes completely wrong! My father is a joke really, he's been ignorant about it since the beginning, and Like you say he frequently tells me to 'pull myself together' and makes nasty comments, are relationship is terrible at the moment, the more he ignores it the more angry Iam getting with him. My sister is great shes my rock, she seems to really understand it, I dont know what I'd do without her. My two brothers are rather ignorant of it but not in a nasty way like my dad, they just dont want to see that I have a problem. So I dont think ill of them for that.

 

[Walk]

I think that the kind of parenting a child has could be difference in whether he or she will have SA or not.

If you have parents that are interested in your life, they will try to help you become sociable growing up; even simple things like teaching you proper greetings to family friends and relatives who knock on the door or having you be part of an afterschool play when you're little. I'm talking like 4 or 5 years old, when we're barely starting to develop social skills.

I doubt that if you've been doing plays or other on-stage performances since you were 5, that you're going to be shy when you're 15 or so.

I have a feeling that bad parenting overall might be the larger culprit in the development of social anxiety and other related problems kids start to have in their youth.

Indifferent parents suck.

 

[Nack]

For those that have parents that understands, im jealous for you. You see, all my mom know is that im a quiet kid, and have come to a conclusion that i am who i am. She doesn't know the suffering that i go through. Again, i'm jealous for those who have parents who understands.