What do you think about him-help please!

GIOLANDA

Well-known member
I'm in love with sb,since last year and he's interested in me a lot. I thought that I was going to have a relationship at last,but the problem is that
1 He's 13 years older than me.
2 He's extremely jealous. He seems to love me but when we talk and other men are around,he gets very nervous. Last week he introduced me to his friend,who was an extrovert type and started asking different things about me so he was very angry. Since that,he's so disappointed. I've always tried to show that I'm interested in him only,but his jealousy is too strong. I've totally no experience in relationships,so I need your advice please! Is there any problem with his age and is jealousy good,meaning that he wants me so much,or it's something wrong,that will cause problems later? Others have told me not to go on with someone like that and I think they're right,but I'm so puzzled because I'm in love with him!
 

boodizm

Well-known member
Just from my point of view, but i don't think age should ever be a roadblock to finding love and happiness with anyone, that one is up to you, if you don't find it a problem, there isn't one.
As you would expect I too haven't had much experience in relationships either, but speaking from a guy's point of view i would not give him a reason to doubt your love and over time he would find no reason to be jealous. Just always remind him of your feelings and it should diminish.
Like you said it does mean he treasures your being with him but it's something you should have talk about seriously down the track if it doesn't stop.
 

bluenow

Well-known member
GIOLANDA said:
his jealousy is too strong.

You said it.

If you are under 25 then 13 year age difference is probably not good if you get into a long term relationship. You will outgrow him.
 

Remus

Moderator
Staff member
I dont see the age as a problem, the jealousy is a problem though, thats something he needs to address, maybe if its so bad, even get therapy for it.

I went out with someone for 3 years who was extremely jealous, even jealous of me being freinds with people, foolishly I let her get away with it to keep the peace, I should have been more firm but also assuring, I'm 100% in a relationship and I think I should have made that clear at every insecure moment, mind you, we were that not compatible anyway and like most jealous people she ended up cheating as usually extreme jealousy is generated by those who cannot be faithful themselves and as they do not tryust themselves have a hard time trusting others, not that that is always the case but it is common
 
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