What do females think about dating at different stages of their life

Diend

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Approach anxiety. Ive got it. I have never had a casual girlfriend growing up and now that im in college, ive become curious as to what a girl thinks about when she thinks about dating. In elementary school, what does she have planned to do with her boyfriend. How about in middle school? Does it differ during freshman year of high school and senior year of high school? Does her standards become more practical as she traverses through college and beyond? I wonder what couples talked about during middle school or high school because during those times, there doesnt seem to be any solid reason to start a relationship. Thanks for your input.
 

Odo

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Maybe you won't care about my opinion cuz I'm a guy, but I don't think that this is something that you can generalize. People can only tell you what they themselves want. And even if they do actually tell you what they think they want for themselves, they're not always being honest or they could be overlooking a lot.

On the other hand, I remember reading an article that said most young women want fun and looks (probably popularity or some sort of niche social identity if you're in high school)… and then around age 25, their priorities shift and they mostly want you to have a good job and money. That rings pretty true, I think.

So yeah, believe it or not, you're currently at the point in your life when meeting girls is easiest, and when they're the least materialistic (I guess because you're all just students and even if your parents are loaded there's still less of an economic hierarchy to worry about).

I also think that there are some willing to settle for less than they think they deserve or who are so emotionally needy that they won't care if you have anything to offer them or not, but I wouldn't recommend going down that road.

I think that things might just be changing now that women have better jobs and are making more money… so there's that-- maybe they'll be more willing to provide for men in the future, but you'll still have to give them some sort of reason to like you, I'd imagine.

You might also be able to find a free spirit who doesn't care if you're not buying things all the time… but then you'll also have to be a free spirit and that's not something that's easy to sustain when you're older. Eventually, you'll need to be in a position where you're doing 'adult' things and providing for your children and such.

In the meantime, I wouldn't call them 'females'… I'd imagine that using clinical terms to describe women would be something of a turnoff.
 

Yarrow

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I think the 20's are when people start wanting to settle into long-term relationships where they may marry and have children in the future. It's not set in stone, though, as some people will want to wait until after college and some will have stayed with a high school boyfriend or girlfriend. Two acquaintances from freshman year have gotten married now after their graduation.
 
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