We dont need the acceptance and opinion of others!!!!

[ShyBeliever]

Im trying to live the philosophy that we dont need the acceptance and opinion of other people. Fuck them!!! Try to develop yourself as a person in your work, with your friends, with your hobbies, etc. Establish your routines, read books, travel on your own, watch movies, listen to music, go to concerts on your own, commit yourself to your work and feel the taste of progressing in your career, be at ease with yourself and admire yourself and who you are. Just relax...and admire the beauty of life on your own.

If eventually in your life trip, you can meet some buddies or friends, just be nice to them and try to value them, but DONT BE AFFRAID OF DISSAPOINTING THEM OR LOOSING THEM, because the truth is YOU DONT NEED THEM. You dont need a girlfriend /boyfriend to be happy. You dont need a friend to read a good book, to taste a good meal, to watch the sunset, to get home tired and have the relaxing feeling of a good bath, to watch a fucking good movie that blows your mind, to enjoy playing your favourite video game, to enjoy seeing yourself improving physically after an exercise session, to enjoy seeing yourself improving mentally after a meditation session, to enjoy suceeding in your exam, to finish your university course and seeing your hard work being rewarded, to feel the joy of being promoted in your work...........to establish goals and achieving them.

Because........we all born alone and in the end we all dye alone....so just relax and enjoy life by yourself for yourself.

When you reach the stage at which youre truly confident and happy with yourself without external dependencies, then the appearance of friends and gf/bfs in your life will just be natural.

 

[bleach]

Well the fact is, I do need people in my life and it is killing me to be alone all the time. So I already know this attitude can't help me if it is even possible.

 

[LordofTheNoobs]

You have a point but what good is all that success with nobody to love an share it with?

 

[Psychedelicious]

I think most of us already know, or should know, that we shouldn't care about having the acceptance and opinions of others. It's not just like that though. You can't just be all the sudden like "oh I don't care". It just ain't like that, a lot of people know they shouldn't think like that, but they just can't stop.

Also another thing, establish yourself in your work, hobbies and friends. That would be awesome, if I had work, hobbies, or friends. You can't just meet friends like that. I really hate it when people say it's easy. It's not easy, it's WAY hard. I personally don't think I'm capable of ever having any friends if things stay like this. Some people just are not meant to have friends. If I was capable of having them it would be a lot easier to establish yourself with them. Of course you need people to be happy. What are people without other people? They are pretty much nothing.

 

[oNecoOlazN]

Interesting topic. Just after i've wrote a fuc King depressing email .
It made me feel soooooooooooo much better,BEFORE reading all the replys.
:roll: :roll: :roll: :roll: :roll: :roll: :roll: :roll:

i HATE all you replyers!!!!!!!! :twisted:

 

[miss_amy]

Wish I could not care too.

Even if I get positive acceptance and opinions mostly I still home in on the very few negative ones or think they are just being nice and really think bad stuff about me. Logic tells me its stupid but the felings of that wont leave me.

Ive finally got a friend and all I do is feel like the pain of them about to dump me is too much to cope with. Lucky they have same things and understand my nutty thoughts and put up with me having my little flip outs every now and then.

 

[GloomySunday]

A lot of what you wrote there makes perfect sense, and it certainly does ring true. We don't need other people like we need water to drink or the air that we breathe, but I do believe that people are, by their very nature, sociable creatures. Deep down in our most secret of hearts we all want and need someone to love, someone to love us...someone to share life's journey with.

I certainly enjoy doing many things alone. I go to many concerts and movies by myself. Some days I buy a rail ticket and just take off to visit an old haunt or explore somewhere new. It's quite liberating and is certainly preferable to sitting home alone doing nothing at all.

But I think you do need someone in your life, we all do. Belonging to this forum and posting your thoughts here shows a desire to communicate, to be understood, to be accepted by other people. Those are natural emotions.

Ultimately, I agree that we should do more things alone and not to be dependent upon others - but, at the same time, we should also make time for developing relationships and taking risks. To broaden our world and our horizons and our potential for future happiness.