Watching other people have a conversation.. frustrating!

[bitingthepea]

Isnt it so annoying when your at work or college or whereever.. and you just listen people having a normal coversation and the things they say and they have a laugh.. then you think well why cant i do that that easily !

 

[bitingthepea]

Sometimes. But honestly, most conversations sound fake to me.

lol same its annoying when you can tell someone is being fake and happy

 

[ventriloone]

Yea most peopel's conversations are so boring and trivial i'm glad i don't have them.

 

[Riiya]

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[Ubersonic]

Well I do wish I wasn't so terrified around my bosses or girls. Other than those situations I just don't give a crap about small talk. I just get that fake feeling when I do.

 

[RND_CHR]

Yeah, But I don't get annoyed when I evesdrop on conversations. I get really jealous. Both that people are being friendly with eachother and that they have social skills that I struggle to even approach.

 

[bleach]

Well I do wish I wasn't so terrified around my bosses or girls. Other than those situations I just don't give a crap about small talk. I just get that fake feeling when I do.

This is a bad attitude which IMO you should work on changing. Small talk makes people more comfortable being around you and that is a sort of prerequisite for deeper, more substantive relationships with people--you may never learn to enjoy it but you can at least learn to tolerate it long enough to develop new friendships and connections.

That has been my experience, anyway.

 

[Havocan]

I find it beyond difficult to jump into a conversation like that, making smalltalk. It seems all so easy, but still I'm not able to do it.

 

[Anubis]

I find it beyond difficult to jump into a conversation like that, making smalltalk. It seems all so easy, but still I'm not able to do it.

I find it difficult as well. It's frustrating.

I think it has a lot to do with my general abhorrence of "cute" conversation. It just seems so cheesy and fake to me. Basically, I could never do what David Letterman and Jay Leno do to their guests every day.

But at the same time, I fully realize that these same cheesy conversations build strong contacts and make it possible to be successful. Some small-talk is also quite entertaining to listen to. Eurgh, I wish there was a way for me to get over this odd-feeling of embarrassment and repugnance when initiating small-talk.

 

[PhantomPod]

Yeah, it definitely gets frustrating watching others converse so easily, when I can barely start a convo, keep one going, or gracefully exit a convo. It's especially frustrating when I'll observe others who are having a conversation, as if to get tips on what I can do in the future, and I just feel like such an alien having to sit on the sidelines and observe was trying to learn how to converse. In a way it just seems like it should be such a basic skill, and I don't understand what happened along the way that caused me not to develop such a skill.

 

[DaaaBulls]

If you think about it don't you have anyone that you can have a normal convo with and laugh and it comes easy? I have a couple of friends that I feel this way around and a few aqcuintances without the laughter. I think for people like us we just have to find people we are comfortable around and hang out with those people... There are those people out there that can relate to who we are and can have a good relationship. I don't think we will ever have a ton of friends because thats just not our personality but thats ok, find those you feel comfortable around and enjoy their company.