sucettes
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Hello! I've had social anxiety since I was 13 years old, I'm (soon) 19 now. I don't really know how to write this and it might sound weird, I'm hoping that I'm not the only one who's feeling like this because I really need some good advice. I live with my mum, dad and brother, but the rest of my family lives in another country. We have always visited them regularly like in the Summer, Christmas, etc. But this time I'm bringing my boyfriend with me. It's the first time I'm bringing someone and it's the first serious relationship I've ever had. I'm terrified and I feel so nervous. My family has always been quite judgmental and I guess that I'm scared of what they will think of him. And I don't like that everyone will have their eyes on me and that I will have all the attention because I have my boyfriend with me. I hate being judged. My boyfriend speaks English and some in my family doesn't know the language too well (I'm from Scandinavia). I'm afraid it will be awkward and stand there like some stupid translator. I'm also very scared of blushing and I hate when people comment on it. I guess I'm scared if someone will say something negative about him to me, that there will be awkward moments where no one knows what to say or do and I'm terrified if I'm gonna blush. I'm not embarrassed of my boyfriend in any way, but I'm used to people judging me and I don't like being looked at. I hate to introduce him to people because I think it's awkward. I also feel kinda "trapped" in these situations, it feels like I'm the one who needs to let the conversation going because I'm the one who's introducing them (especially when he speaks English and the other person doesn't always understand). My biggest fear is that I will just randomly blush or have a panic attack and then people will ask if I'm okay or why I'm acting so weird. This is really bugging me. It probably sound weird, and I guess most people doesn't have this problem - maybe it's just me. I just want to hear about other people's experiences and if someone feels the same way as me.
I remember the first time I took my boyfriend home. When we sat at the dinner table eating, I was blushing like hell. My dad said "...What is it?! you're VERY red in your face!" I had no idea what to say to that and that made the situation even worse. I'm scared it will happen again, I don't want anyone to see me like that, not even my family, nor my boyfriend... So yes, I am even anxious when I'm with my family in some situations, how stupid is that... I hope all this made sense.
I remember the first time I took my boyfriend home. When we sat at the dinner table eating, I was blushing like hell. My dad said "...What is it?! you're VERY red in your face!" I had no idea what to say to that and that made the situation even worse. I'm scared it will happen again, I don't want anyone to see me like that, not even my family, nor my boyfriend... So yes, I am even anxious when I'm with my family in some situations, how stupid is that... I hope all this made sense.
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