mostlyokay
Member
Hi,
Had a moderately bad day at work today.
Although on a positive note, I've been at my new job for about 2 months and was thrilled to get something. So far its been going really good, I find most of my workmates are fairly nice and I've received several complements from workmates and the general public, in fact today I heard someone say "she's lovely" as I walked away! I also quite enjoy what I am doing and my hours are very user friendly.
However today I was going about my normal business when the boss appeared (people in authority generally freak me out). She told me we had issues to discuss and come and see her. I was quite concerned what issues where they? In my previous job which I don't miss at all and so glad I left, whenever the boss used to get me aside to discuss anything she used to yell quite a bit, threaten to fire me etc etc (she had other harassment complaints against her - as I say only too happy to have left). So I was extremely nervous, I know its a new place but I still remember how it used to be. The threats, the public ridicule by other staff members, my work going missing... Anyway back to the present, I sat down I told her I'd eat my lunch after (she told me to bring it) but I was just so nervous I don't think I would have got the food in my mouth. Then I went red. Like really red, my neck goes very blotchly with red spots when I blush. The conversation was really awkward and the boss ended by saying that I shouldn't be getting afternoon tea. All in all not terrible but not great.
Most of the conversation was just normal work stuff and nothing much of note, not having any break in the afternoons is a bummer but at least there was no yelling. Nothing good mentioned but nothing really bad either. Fairly neutral really. But I hated that I went red, I wish people didn't look, I hate that it happens. But at least its the first time in ages and no one commented, looked but didn't say anything. I went about the rest of work and the day went quick but when I got to my car I burst out in tears. I feel a bit silly but I was just quaking in my shoes when she said we needed to discuss 'issues'. I know its not like it was before (and nothing too bad really happened during this conversation anyway) but the memories and the humiliation stay with me and blushing/awkwardness is never great.
Does anyway else get tongue-tied or supersonically red when speaking to the boss? Does anyone else worry about getting fired cause their shy? (I think I'm otherwise good at the job and the shyness only makes a negative impact sometimes). Does anyone have any tips for meetings with the boss (I just need to move past my bad experiences) to make it easier? Does anyone have any tips for surviving the work Christmas party?
Thanks again - you know I appreciate your time!
Had a moderately bad day at work today.
Although on a positive note, I've been at my new job for about 2 months and was thrilled to get something. So far its been going really good, I find most of my workmates are fairly nice and I've received several complements from workmates and the general public, in fact today I heard someone say "she's lovely" as I walked away! I also quite enjoy what I am doing and my hours are very user friendly.
However today I was going about my normal business when the boss appeared (people in authority generally freak me out). She told me we had issues to discuss and come and see her. I was quite concerned what issues where they? In my previous job which I don't miss at all and so glad I left, whenever the boss used to get me aside to discuss anything she used to yell quite a bit, threaten to fire me etc etc (she had other harassment complaints against her - as I say only too happy to have left). So I was extremely nervous, I know its a new place but I still remember how it used to be. The threats, the public ridicule by other staff members, my work going missing... Anyway back to the present, I sat down I told her I'd eat my lunch after (she told me to bring it) but I was just so nervous I don't think I would have got the food in my mouth. Then I went red. Like really red, my neck goes very blotchly with red spots when I blush. The conversation was really awkward and the boss ended by saying that I shouldn't be getting afternoon tea. All in all not terrible but not great.
Most of the conversation was just normal work stuff and nothing much of note, not having any break in the afternoons is a bummer but at least there was no yelling. Nothing good mentioned but nothing really bad either. Fairly neutral really. But I hated that I went red, I wish people didn't look, I hate that it happens. But at least its the first time in ages and no one commented, looked but didn't say anything. I went about the rest of work and the day went quick but when I got to my car I burst out in tears. I feel a bit silly but I was just quaking in my shoes when she said we needed to discuss 'issues'. I know its not like it was before (and nothing too bad really happened during this conversation anyway) but the memories and the humiliation stay with me and blushing/awkwardness is never great.
Does anyway else get tongue-tied or supersonically red when speaking to the boss? Does anyone else worry about getting fired cause their shy? (I think I'm otherwise good at the job and the shyness only makes a negative impact sometimes). Does anyone have any tips for meetings with the boss (I just need to move past my bad experiences) to make it easier? Does anyone have any tips for surviving the work Christmas party?
Thanks again - you know I appreciate your time!