thoughts as ya step out the front door

jojosparkles

jojosparkles

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hiya peeps!

I just thought id ask wat goes thru ppls head when they go to walk out the front door? wat is the worrying thoughts that hold them back! for me its the fear of being criticised on my personal appearence..to be percieved as fat or ugly and things like that!

Wat goes thru your head ?

xxxx
 
jojosparkles

jojosparkles

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well i have seen ya pic and i think ya crazy. it just shows its all in ya head! if i looked at ya it would b to admire ya good looks! lol xx
 
JediKnight

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I feel the same and I'm very easily embarrassed. We're being too self-critical, but in reality people don't judge us the way we think they do. See yourself in a positive self-image and try not to focus on what others will think... it worked for me. :)
 
Reholla

Reholla

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I think about a LOT...especially since driving to class is about 15 minutes, that gives me a lot of time to think (mostly ANTICIPATE) about what im about to do. Walking to class is the same. I usually try to listen to music. This helps me get things off my mind and I just focus on the lyrics in the song (definitely pick up lifting or soothing music to listen to tho!)

If youre having anticipatory thoughts before you leave for the day just say to yourself

"It's not the end of the world, its just another day."
 
jojosparkles

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sad_kat said:
I think "Oh my god I look a state", or "I'm too ugly to even step outside the front door and show my face". I also think people will judge me and when I start walking up the road I always look about me to see if anyone is staring at me and judging me.
Then getting on the bus, oh my god, thats the worst. Sometimes I have to wait while about 10 pass untill I feel able to get on, then when I walk down the aisle with everyone staring at me I just want to curl up and die cause I feel so embarassed about walking down the bus. and sometimes I have to get off the bus afew stops after my actual stop and walk all the way home cause I feel too scared to walk past everyone.
going abit off topic there but yeah u get my drift :wink:
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u sound so much like me its unbeleivable! im like that on the bus! when i used to go to the pictures i always had the fear of falling down the stairs aswell so i used to sit there and nearly wee myself rather than go to the toilet.

my friend emma has been really helpful and once when we were out and i thought some1 was staring she just said look are they perfect! of course they werent!

This is going to sound really really terrible but if i do get on the train or the bus or somethin and i feel really self conscious i just look at other ppl and think that same thought. not 1 person i c is perfect and it makes me feel that little bit better!

luv n sparkles joanna xxx
 
Chris22

Chris22

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worrydoll said:
'kut, i've forgotten my bike key again.'
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kut??
sounds dutch

anyway i think about a lot of things example: will people not make fun of me, or wil i not do something stupid, do i look normal
 
Scottish_Player

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When i go out the front door i think how good it is to be alive and how wonderfull life is :p only joking, i wish i thought like that though.

Before i went out the house i used to have to check out all the windows and somtimes double check to make sure no one was about then if i did go out and there was some one coming along my street i would go back inside as if i had forgotten something, untill they had passed. But now it dosent seem to get to me as much as it used to for some reason and i have no answer for it, it just changed some how to a feeling of not caring anymore but not in a negative way more like i can go on beating myself up over something that dosent really exist and its all in my head or i can get on with my life and just make it as easy as possible :)
 
Waybuloo

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sad_kat said:
Then getting on the bus, oh my god, thats the worst. Sometimes I have to wait while about 10 pass untill I feel able to get on, then when I walk down the aisle with everyone staring at me I just want to curl up and die cause I feel so embarassed about walking down the bus. and sometimes I have to get off the bus afew stops after my actual stop and walk all the way home cause I feel too scared to walk past everyone.
going abit off topic there but yeah u get my drift :wink:
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It once hit me so hard i had to get off the bus after on the way to school and walked to school on the nearly deserted road for 40 minutes. What triggered me was this guy was staring at me and i just had to immediately stand up and walk off.
 
jojosparkles

jojosparkles

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id love to know why we are so bothered wat other ppl think esp those that we dont know. some people just have a way of making u feel tiny by looking at u although they will b far from perfect themselves. i wish i could just wake up and enjoy life instead of worryin wat ppl whose opinions wouldnt matter anyway think of me!! xx
 
IceLad

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I always feel very apprehensive stepping outside the front door, and worry whether there will be anyone that knows me about, and that I'll have to say hello or start talking to them.
 
jessnz

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i hope that i don't see anyone i know, and i get very conscious about the way i look - i'm sure everyone that looks at me is thinking i'm ugly and can see all my flaws.
i feel uncomfortable walking past people and i think about -how- i'm walking and that maybe i look silly.
 
jessnz

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sad_kat said:
I think "Oh my god I look a state", or "I'm too ugly to even step outside the front door and show my face". I also think people will judge me and when I start walking up the road I always look about me to see if anyone is staring at me and judging me.
Then getting on the bus, oh my god, thats the worst. Sometimes I have to wait while about 10 pass untill I feel able to get on, then when I walk down the aisle with everyone staring at me I just want to curl up and die cause I feel so embarassed about walking down the bus. and sometimes I have to get off the bus afew stops after my actual stop and walk all the way home cause I feel too scared to walk past everyone.
going abit off topic there but yeah u get my drift :wink:
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omg the bus
i hate having to sit next to someone!!!
i don't get on the bus if it's full because theres too many people to deal with. and i start getting anxious when my stop is coming up and i have to ring the bell.
ugh the bus is awful :(
 
frightened

frightened

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^ I'm the opposite. I hate someone having to sit next to me when there is a spare seat next to me.

when i leave the house i think "everyone should just stop looking at me, you are the reason why i have this stupid problem. you should all go to hell"
 
blubs

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I think...'phew....thankgod I'm getting out of the house'...
& then as I walk to my car I think....'is my freaky neighbour watching me on his cctv?'...It covers our shared yard & my parking space...cctv!!!..can you imagine anything more annoying for someone with SA 8O
Stop watching me!!!
 
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