MrRightNow said:
Yea I fucking hate when people assume you are attracted to them. Like when you look at a hot girl, she starts to laugh like you are checking her out. But I mean you have to glance over there at least once before you know!
Hey guys (and girls), I've lost all my fear. In this reply I have written something about how I experience reality now. If you have questions just ask me.
To reply to the quoted text:
what is going on in reality is this:
a hot girl smiles at you -
nothing wrong with that! it's actually beautiful (or hot!)
you believe in your mind: the hot girl smiles because she thinks she is hot -
Now this is just a thought. Not real. Thoughts are never real. And this particular assumption is quite a big one! Still nothing to upset about.
Now you take the thought 'the hot girl smiles because she thinks she is hot' as fact, and think: the hot girl should not think she is hot!! -
you now take your assumption to be real and start judging this false truth, that you made up yourself. The thought 'hot girl shouldn't think she's hot' is, again, just a thought. Thoughts are not real, so there is still nothing to worry about.
Now a feeling in your body arises and this feeling you call anger. -
The feeling that has arisen is just a feeling. It's not bad. If you think it is bad, you THINK that and it is not the truth. The anger is not real, because there is only the feeling in your body, and the thoughts. You mistake the concept of anger for reality!
That's how I see it now. If you have trouble believing that a thought can never be real, think about this:
everything around us is real, clear, solid. If you look at your hand you see your hand and only your hand. The hand has no problems. If you see a tree that's simply a tree.
Thoughts, on the other hand, are very different from all the other things. In your mind things are not so clear. Thoughts are always going all over the place. If you would call the world 'solid', you could say your thoughts are 'fluid' or 'air': there is a fundamental difference between a thought and the feeling of my hand, or the sight of a bird, etc.
SOooooo.
imagine that all simple experiences are the land, and all thought is a river flowing through that land. The land is still, and the river is always in motion, flowing.
The land can't think (just like what you see, feel, hear, etc. can't think), but the river can. The river can compare one thing to another. The river can see big and small, beautiful and ugly. The river makes thoughts about the land. BUT, what if the river believes that what it thinks is real? The river has a thought and it says: this thought is real, does then the river become the land? No, the river remains the river and the land is unchanged.
The river can only be the river. If the river says it is the land, it is still the river. And just like that, if you think that your thought willl become real, it is still a thought.
Do you guys understand?
edit: this applies to fear and all other emotions too. The key thing is: all problems are created by the mind.