The story of my night.

That is how I felt when I was out yesterday. I wanted to write it down in another than usual way:

A small club in a small city. The space isn’t fully filled but the atmosphere is good. The room is dark, smoke ascends from a couple of cigarettes to disperse even into the remotest corners of the place. The bright, flashing light of the stroboscope releases sight to smiling faces all over the club. Everywhere people are sipping from their drinks, are chattering, laughing and enjoying the night. About 30 of them are dancing frolicsomely to live music played by an above average indie band. Everybody seems to have fun but among all these happy people there is one puzzle piece that doesn't fit in.
It is an alien from another planet, an alien who is obsessed by just one thought. From the outside, the alien looks like everybody else, but from within it is completely different. The alien comes from a planet where its inhabitants don’t know how it is to have fun. They never learn how it is to feel as beloved, accepted member of a group. The people of this planet are taught from very early on that they are inferior, that they are not worth talking to others. The people of this planet don’t know how it is to be happy, the only feelings they know are sadness and loneliness. The alien looks around and envies all the happy people for whom it seems so easy to socialize; the alien is obsessed by this one thought: to be like everybody else. It doesn’t know when it arrived on this planet, but for as long as it can remember it wanted to be like everybody else. But as hard as the alien has tried, change didn’t occur and the alien doesn’t know anymore if it is right to desire being somebody else. The alien knows that it doesn’t want to be like it has always been, but it starts to think that it has to accept its origin that it has to accept itself, change seems to be impossible anyway.
A girls glance catches the eyes of the alien, but it looks down ashamed. The band finishes its gig, the alien leaves the club. It decides not to say goodbye to its only friend in the room who has hours ago immersed into an excited conversation with a beautiful girl. The alien is gone, nobody has noticed.
 
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twiggle

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An illustrative way of putting it.

I have felt like this on nights too. Plenty of times.

My solution is to go to the bar and get a double vodka. Then before I know it, I'm dancing too.

Its not the best of solutions perhaps, but it means I forget inhibitions for an evening.
 
Twiggle, basically you are right, there is alcohol and the beautiy of forgetting for the moment. But I figured, that alcohol doesn't do the job, because in the coming down phase I most often get severely depressed.

Could be an idea though to carry around a bottle of wodka all day long;)
 

stardreamer

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I understand. It feels horrible to know everyone else is having fun while you feel out of place. I've been there many times. :(
 

twiggle

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Twiggle, basically you are right, there is alcohol and the beautiy of forgetting for the moment. But I figured, that alcohol doesn't do the job, because in the coming down phase I most often get severely depressed.

Could be an idea though to carry around a bottle of wodka all day long;)

Ha yes I completely agree.
When I'm out and drunk I'm loving it all.
The next day I just feel sick and depressed.
Lately I've come to realise that I don't want to be the type of person who has to get so crazily drunk just to enjoy things. I don't even like the types of music at these places anyway and only go because my friends want to. I've given all that up now - stick doing the things that you want to do. Don't go to clubs if they'll make you feel like that. I don't bother with these things anymore because I don't like them and I wish I'd realised sooner.
My problem was that I wasn't sufficiently aware of the fact that you don't HAVE to do these things. Going away I learnt that not all societies are fixated on the cultural phenomena of bars and clubs and I learnt to appreciate things like a beer in the woods with a guitar and some friends, or even just a dinner out with a glass of wine and having a good chat, a lot more.
....Apologies, I think I've completely gone off on one, but I hope its helped anyway!
 

Hastings & Main

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Wow. Nicely put!
Too many nights like that, myself. And the 'alien' thoughts coming on while walking around afterwards, getting deeper and deeper into my own solitude.
 
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