The sound of people having fun...

[kuhtreen]

Does it ever make you sad? Sometimes when I hear my sister and her friends laughing in her room, or my neighbors having friends over and hanging out in their backyard, I can't help but feel a little depressed. It sounds great to have a life like that..

 

[Rorschach]

Yeah, I know exactly what you mean. I live near a local football field and every time there's a game I just can't stand "the sound of people having fun" because I live in a small village and I feel as if I'm expected to be there because everybody is there, but I can't because of my stupid phobia. But the sound that really gets to me is the sound of the whistle... Every time I hear it I just wish to be millions of miles away... or to bang my head against a wall...

 

[faithnomore]

Does it ever make you sad? Sometimes when I hear my sister and her friends laughing in her room, or my neighbors having friends over and hanging out in their backyard, I can't help but feel a little depressed. It sounds great to have a life like that..

I've never had that problem. I guess its true that everyone with social anxiety has different problems. I've always laughed with friends. I just hate going anywhere.

 

[playthepsychedelic]

It only sounds great when you're with the people having fun
Everytime when I walk by a group of people of my age and I'm alone I feel stupid. When they laugh I automatically think there laughing with/at me (sorry dunno which of both is the bad one :roll: my english = poor)
but you get used to that. Just try not to feel down because others are having fun. Stop comparing yourself to them. If you have fun on your one or maybe think about having fun with your friends you will feel much better .

 

[zootdroop]

I've never had that problem. I'm the opposite, I hate seeing people having a "good time". When I see and hear people laughing and partying or whatever it drives me crazy. All summer a house down the street has had loud obnoxious parties with people laughing and dancing...it drives me nuts. I see most things that people think of as fun as a waste of time. Go home and read a book, learn something or do something constructive. Why waste time with that pointless stuff?

 

[recluse]

I feel sad. I've just come back from a short holiday and i felt sad seeing all these people having fun. I feel so uptight in comparison to everyone else.

 

[Ursula]

When I hear people having 'fun' ie cackling raucously in their gardens it certainly makes me uncomfortable but I don't really feel sad that I can't be like that- they might be having a great time or it might be completely fake. It's always my instinct to think it's fake though but maybe that's just me being a miserable old codger.

 

[ABunkerHere]

I have a similar issue... It's not so much the "sound" of people having fun, but for me, recreating with my imagination people having the fun they had, and me not being there.

For instance, many of my problems come from a girl who I care infinitely about, but was too shy to say "yes" to her when we were in high school. I look back and it's simply too late. I have no issue with other people having fun in life, including her, but when I think, and I imagine her at the parties that I skipped out on years ago... It just hurts. It's like, "Why couldn't I share that with you?"

It's a weird thing. It hurts in the stomach area for me, quite literally I'll have take an antacid pill just to keep from getting an upset stomach when I think of it. So much of our pain stems from psychological issues that in turn make us feel pain physically.

 

[kuhtreen]

It does a bit. I don't know really, I don't tend to care too much what other people are doing. I'd like to have lots of other young, outgoing friends though. Do you have many friends to talk with?

I don't have any friends at all, and that's the reason why it saddens me so much. Because I can't just call up a friend and ask them to hang out. The only people that I hang out with and have fun with are my two older sisters. They're all I've got, but they have lives of their own...so when they leave, I feel lonely. I wish my happiness didn't rely on other people.

 

[samk]

Me too i feel like that a lot.

If i go downtown for any reason on Friday or Saturday night
I get so sad and miserable because its mostly bars and clubs and everyone is having fun and is so happy .


when i get home i feel a bit better because i am inside but i still i am sad that i was downtown .

In a way i wish at times i lived in middle of nowhere and didn't see any happiness .