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SocialMT

SocialMT

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Hello everyone :D

I seen a few post about relationships and looking for love sorta thing and the funny thing is we are the same, men and women. what your looking for is what they are looking for.

I learned this a long time ago, everyone wants someone to love and be with and to call their own. but the thing that messes others up is the way they show affection, see the way i show affection is to be physical ~bow chicka bow wow~ yea that way...sex and a lot of kissing , but yours might be different like you might have to have dinner first or talk or do an activity w/e. so what i do is ask them how they show affection and you HAVE to accept it. if not the relationship wont last, and if they are not the way you want them to be, then you can ask your partner if they are willing to try whatever. if yes then awesome if not then oh well.

this stuff takes work work WORK. some serious time is invested to make a relationship last and to create a bond. see for me i have no problem what so ever attracting women but when it comes to making friends with men i fail big time. I guess you have to be crap at something to be really good at something else, thats my theory.

so yea the main rule is BE YOURSELF, it works and someone will accept you for who you are if you accept them as they are. never change for someone thats the worst thing you can do. i have had many partners but only 1 woman i always think about and thats my current best friend and lover of all time.

be honest, loving and true and you can never go wrong

happy loving everyone!
 
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Nathália

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I like what you have to say and good for you. I like that you say you have to accept how your partner decides to show affection, no one should ever push anyone to do something they don't want, if you don't care about that person enough to respect their wishes, I say find another. What I'm saying is reciprocal to both in the relationship. Thanks for your advice, I enjoyed reading.
 
Aletheia

Aletheia

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There are many ways of expressing affection. Gary Chapman suggests that they fall into five categories: physical touch, words of affirmation, quality time, gifts and acts of service. The ways in which any one person naturally expresses themselves will usually fall into some of these categories more than others.

Each person will also have forms of affection that mean the most to them, and will have a much easier time noticing affection expressed in these ways. As you say, it is very valuable to find out how your partner expresses his or her feelings, if for no other reason than to notice them more. But I also think that it's worth while finding out how your partner most needs to feel wanted, even if it's not in ways that come naturally to you.

As for being honest, loving and true: YES.
 
Arthur_Dent

Arthur_Dent

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You have very good points, although the main problem of most people here more than keeping a relationship is to get one at all.
 
SocialMT

SocialMT

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oh well thats easy, just covertly go up and say "hey i seen you over here and i would be kicking myself later if i didn't say hi" or just randomly strike up a convo about something she is wearing this works very well at night outside or in the mall during the day. day time people are more submissive. true story. try it you might get a girlfriend or a boyfriend :)
 
mindflux

mindflux

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SocialMT said:
oh well thats easy, just covertly go up and say "hey i seen you over here and i would be kicking myself later if i didn't say hi" or just randomly strike up a convo about something she is wearing this works very well at night outside or in the mall during the day. day time people are more submissive. true story. try it you might get a girlfriend or a boyfriend :)
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Arthur_Dent

Arthur_Dent

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SocialMT said:
oh well thats easy
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I can speak in public, very well, and be in the middle of a huge crowd, but when people in here tell how hard are those situations for them I understand them, because I can relate from the times interacting with the opposite sex I have the paralyzing anxiety I imagine other's have in the situations mentioned, so if they're nervous about a job interview I won't tell them "oh well thats easy" only because is easy for me, I'm aware that social anxiety is not the same for everybody.
 
SocialMT

SocialMT

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Arthur_Dent said:
I can speak in public, very well, and be in the middle of a huge crowd, but when people in here tell how hard are those situations for them I understand them, because I can relate from the times interacting with the opposite sex I have the paralyzing anxiety I imagine other's have in the situations mentioned, so if they're nervous about a job interview I won't tell them "oh well thats easy" only because is easy for me, I'm aware that social anxiety is not the same for everybody.
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Yea I can see what you mean but i was not always so good at talking to the opposite sex, i was once very very veryyyyyyy bad at it, until i was sick and tired of not getting any. then i started staring people down and they just liked me more, iunno it just happens once you do that.
 
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