The Introduction of Me (lol sorry if long)

[Myself]

Hello, I'm Effy (nickname) and I'm 16 years old and a chick from the UK. I've just finished compulsory high school, although I'm opting to stay on in school for two more years so I can get into University.

For the past five years in this secondary school, it's been a wishy-washy experience. In Year 7 and Year 8 I had good times, and a few close friends, but in Year 9 my life turned upside down. I drifted from my friends because of our new classes, and I started getting bullied by chav boys and chav girls. I became socially phobic of people, and preferred to stay in the library alone at breaktimes and lunchtimes, and then basically just force myself to live out each day.

The only good thing in Year 9 was this YOYO club I went to every Tuesday afternoon with a few cool people from school to do confidence building discussions, and various activities (swimming, artificial rockclimbing, etc.).

Year 10 was pretty much as bad, but no YOYO, and Year 11 was alright.. I managed to make a few friends, but I still had a social phobia and lonliness because of it. Now, I've opted to stay in school for Year 12 and 13, which I'll be starting next month providing my GCSE (final exams) results are good enough. It may seem suprising that I'm opting to stay in a school that caused me hell in my life, but I have my reasons. My friend and crush is staying on, I have a teacher I trust and my parents want me to stay on, and they offer the subjects I want.

Anyway, my social phobia has kind of hit me bad. I'm afraid of all-girl or all-boy gangs, so I avoid them in the street even if they're harmless, I never go out as much, and I became a bit of an internet addict, playing online games for a lot of time - I've managed to keep in contact with two online friends, Kay (who's from the Philippines) and Aaron (who's also from England) of all, which we talk to on the phone sometimes, and I have them on Facebook and MSN, and we planning to meet within a year.

I'm not "friendless" in real-life, but I'm just not close to anyone anymore, and I always reject offers to go out.

But yeah, anyways. Hello. This forum seems like a cool and active place, and I hope to get on with you all.

 

[JeffFenech]

Hi Myself, I suffered a similar experience to you. I left secondary school back in 2002 and I also suffered bullying all the way through my schooling life. I joined a local boxing gym at 19 in the hope of increasing my confidence and I made some close friends through that as well as making me active again.

I hope you feel welcome here.

 

[LycraPantiies92]

I drifted from my friends because of our new classes, and I started getting bullied by chav boys and chav girls. I became socially phobic of people, and preferred to stay in the library alone at breaktimes and lunchtimes, and then basically just force myself to live out each day.

Same. What happened to me in school really. ::

Now, I've opted to stay in school for Year 12 and 13, which I'll be starting next month providing my GCSE (final exams) results are good enough. It may seem suprising that I'm opting to stay in a school that caused me hell in my life, but I have my reasons. My friend and crush is staying on, I have a teacher I trust and my parents want me to stay on, and they offer the subjects I want.

Yeah, i stayed on last year to do 5th year, worst decision ever as people still started their shxt. But on the other hand i had a nice teacher and passed a few good subjects. So i'm glad i did stay, even though i was hardly there. I realised in about october that i'd made a bad choice staying on. I'd say to anyone if the bullying was as bad as it was for me then just get out of school!
..i practically got kicked out anyway. cos of behaviour and skiving. i think the sa was making people take me the wrong way anyway. i did give teachers attitude sometimes but that's cos they mocked the way i was cos of my sa. which i think was nasty tbh ::

Anyway, my social phobia has kind of hit me bad. I'm afraid of all-girl or all-boy gangs, so I avoid them in the street even if they're harmless, I never go out as much, and I became a bit of an internet addict, playing online games for a lot of time
I'm not "friendless" in real-life, but I'm just not close to anyone anymore, and I always reject offers to go out.

Same. most of it anyways.

Hope you like it on here [:
xx

 

[shybhoy]

never run from a bully !!

i been there....conquered it taught the bully a lesson but it did make me leave school in fourth year which i regret which is why i say never let a bully tell you what to do...kick him in the nuts !! lol xx

 

[overcome.]

welcome to the forum

secondary school can be a tough time for anybody, my anxiety problems got pretty bad in year 10 and particular 11. i remember going back in year 11 and having anxiety nonstop for the first 2 months or so, all day, every day while at school, bad times... but hey, things won't always be like this, things will get better! nice to meet you!

 

[Noca]

Welcome to SPW!

 

[Myself]

Thanks for the warm welcome, guys. Lol. It's about time I found a decent forummm.

 

[Felgen]

Welcome to the message board!

 

[Myself]

I hear a lot of British people here use the word chav. I have gathered that they are individuals from some group but I want to know what it's all about. What do they do and how do they dress?

Admittedly, it's a broad stereotype/label but it truely fits certain people. Basically, the people that go to school to **** about, get detentions all the time, are quick to judge people ("geek", "fatty", etc) and do not care in the slightest about exams or their schoolwork. They bully and pick on people, sometimes for no rational reason at all.

There's more to the stereotype than what they are like at school, though. It's hard to explain. Urban Diction explains it better than me.

 

[overcome.]

people who bully are insecure, they want to put that negative attention onto somebody else so they're out of the spotlight, imo. they've most likely been bullied themselves at some point, even though they know the feeling (most of them), they still persist and bully people. i would never stand for somebody bullying me, they wouldn't get away with it. underneath all of the attitude and talk, most of them are just that, all bark and no bite.

karma though, they'll get what's coming to them in one way or another, one day.

 

[Myself]

people who bully are insecure, they want to put that negative attention onto somebody else so they're out of the spotlight, imo. they've most likely been bullied themselves at some point, even though they know the feeling (most of them), they still persist and bully people. i would never stand for somebody bullying me, they wouldn't get away with it. underneath all of the attitude and talk, most of them are just that, all bark and no bite.

karma though, they'll get what's coming to them in one way or another, one day.

I agree with you on the insecure part. Particularly bullies that go around in groups. Most of the people that bullied me were two-faced, when they were alone they'd either ignore me or be "friendly", but when with their friends, call me crap.