the fear of being social

[recluse]

How come i have been on a 6 hour flight to a foreign country alone, having previously never been on a plane before o'r abroad alone yet i can't do a simple ''normal'' thing such as being social?!

I have also thought about the fact that humans do probably the most dangerous thing daily i.e driving a car. I risk my life every time i o'r anyone else who drives gets into a car yet i can't take the risk (which is not life threatening) of being social!? It's bizarre how something as trivial as being social is such a handicap for us social phobes, but it terrifies me!

 

[IceLad]

How come i have been on a 6 hour flight to a foreign country alone, having previously never been on a plane before o'r abroad alone yet i can't do a simple ''normal'' thing such as being social?!

I have also thought about the fact that humans do probably the most dangerous thing daily i.e driving a car. I risk my life every time i o'r anyone else who drives gets into a car yet i can't take the risk (which is not life threatening) of being social!? It's bizarre how something as trivial as being social is such a handicap for us social phobes, but it terrifies me!

I can totally relate to this recluse.

Earlier this year, I travelled to the other side of the world on my own on a 20 hour flight, yet I can't even go to a friend's party down the road! If I was on the outside looking in, I would be totally fascinated how someone could be capable of doing something this daunting (which 'normal' people would find difficult), yet not capable of doing simple social things. Unfortunately for me however, I'm the person inside looking out.

 

[Infected_Malignity]

Yeah, but consider this scenario. You board a plane, and after you've been sitting there calmly awaiting takeoff - everybody's immediately evacuated and nobody knows why. After everybody is off, within a safe distance, and informed about the fact that there could be a possible bomb on board, the plane bursts into flames.

Would you ever fly again? Probably not. It's all about habit. If something's proven to you to be safe - it's good news. However if you've had a bad experience with something, your brain sends off STOP' signals galore to prevent you from getting hurt.

 

[RedRibbons]

Does an airplane judge you? ...I find social phobia/anxiety has roots in the fear of judgement... I could be wrong, but it's easy to be fearless of a plane ride, and have high anxiety to be social. People can judge, airplanes can't.

 

[recluse]

Does an airplane judge you? ...I find social phobia/anxiety has roots in the fear of judgement... I could be wrong, but it's easy to be fearless of a plane ride, and have high anxiety to be social. People can judge, airplanes can't.

No but you are more likely to die in an airplane than you are talking to someone.

 

[RedRibbons]

Social anxiety isn't a physical thing though(okay side effects can be physical), but! all in all.. it's mental... lol come on.

 

[spectator]

Does an airplane judge you? ...I find social phobia/anxiety has roots in the fear of judgement... I could be wrong, but it's easy to be fearless of a plane ride, and have high anxiety to be social. People can judge, airplanes can't.

No but you are more likely to die in an airplane than you are talking to someone.

That's not true. All the wars of the world and all the murders and violence stem from people talking to one another....but with a plane it's just very low-chance statistics..

 

[SocialRetahd]

That's not true. All the wars of the world and all the murders and violence stem from people talking to one another

this thread has to have some of the dumbest replies I've seen! The fear of public speaking is greater than death. When you are having a conversation and become nervous, it's painful. Being on a plane or driving a car aren't painful until you flip the thing.

 

[spectator]

That's not true. All the wars of the world and all the murders and violence stem from people talking to one another

this thread has to have some of the dumbest replies I've seen! The fear of public speaking is greater than death. When you are having a conversation and become nervous, it's painful. Being on a plane or driving a car aren't painful until you flip the thing.

What's so dumb about it? All the great things of the world and all the happiest moments of history also stem from people talking to one another. If you're going to call my reply dumb, at least clarify your position. Jackass.

Public speaking and conversation are two different things. I can do the former without problem, whereas the latter can often be trouble.