The cure for being nervous in que's/at checkout

[MattTheRecluse]

When you’re in the que the best thing you can do is not look at the cashier. Infact, don’t look at the cashiers at all when you go in the shop. Works a charm! If you fancy the cashier, please DO smile at them while they serve you, otherwise they lose that attention from you (bad if loads of people start doing this).

Its goes with my 'out of sight out of mind technique' that I’ve posted here a while ago. Did anyone else try this? Basically you don’t look at anyone(starting with those who make you most nervous (e.g. the opposite sex) and it somehow magicly makes you bolder.

Try this next time you go out. I'm a sweater and a shaker but it works wonders for me. I'm posting this on all the big forums because of how it has worked for me.

 

[sahxox]

Hahathats exactly right! I used to look at everyone to see i they were looking at me/reassurance for insecurities. But if u dont look at anyone then this wont happen. You just gotta pretend that you're the only person in the supermarket/or the line and it's all good

 

[TailsAlone]

I'm actually okay with cashiers. They're safe. Each of us knows exactly what the other is there to do, it's all business. I've said things to cashiers that I wouldn't say to others. For example, if she's an attractive girl then I have no problem telling her she's cute.

 

[MattTheRecluse]

Sah- It really does work huh? You are one of a few people who have gotten back to me now that this is works

 

[coyote]

what about us socially anxious cashiers who are wondering what's so wrong with us that no one wants to look at us?

 

[BlueDays]

When you’re in the que the best thing you can do is not look at the cashier. Infact, don’t look at the cashiers at all when you go in the shop. Works a charm!.

Yes but sometimes I get the really extroverted ones that talk to all the customers no matter what! :/ The only thing I can do then is to only give one word answers to their silly questions. Sometimes that works, but some still persist.

what about us socially anxious cashiers who are wondering what's so wrong with us that no one wants to look at us?

I can usually tell when the customer is not making any eye contact out of shyness/anxiety or because their being rude/nasty, by observing their head to toe body language.
For the ones who are obvioulsy anxious I don't make eye contact with them and don't talk to them, (after asking how they are, which we have to do).