Talked with my cousin

[LazyHermitCrab]

Hi i'm just posting this because my cousin came over for dinner. He might be my second cousin whatever who cares. Well im pretty sure he had sa like really bad. Last year he was 26 and now at 27 he finally graduated college with a double major double minor so maybe that was a confidence boost. Well last year i said hi and he couldn't say hi back and his hat was over his face. Today he was very outgoing and happy and im just trying to figure out how. I hope this is inspiration in some way. I kind of wish i went to college instead of communiting because i think i'm avoiding the proccess of being comfortable around people. On the other hand im more friendly with people if i've been alone for a long time since it was like restoring energy time, so not certain. The point is it's possible to make a complete change if you want it. Also a tip would be if someone calls you quiet to remain calm and i guess smile and then change the subject and say how are you and stuff and to not appear overally sensitive. That tis all!

 

[Waybuloo]

Wow about your cousin doing a 180. I'm always very curious when a person goes from shy to outgoing. If I were in your shoes I would talk about that subject, maybe starting by saying how you were hoping to be more outgoing because jobs require that, and how you just find it hard to change. And see what he says. I think when you talk about personal stuff it inspires other people to share theirs. I did hear of people talk about changing when they became an adult, so it's not unusual.

Sometimes with anxiety, it's not as easy as just persevering and hoping for the best. In my case my physical anxiety overwhelms me and prevents me from thinking properly and interacting normally. I keep doing the stuff I do in my life but it never gets any better with practice. Perhaps it is better to go in the deep end for exposure therapy, but that's so scary to me now.

 

[LazyHermitCrab]

Wow about your cousin doing a 180. I'm always very curious when a person goes from shy to outgoing. If I were in your shoes I would talk about that subject, maybe starting by saying how you were hoping to be more outgoing because jobs require that, and how you just find it hard to change. And see what he says. I think when you talk about personal stuff it inspires other people to share theirs. I did hear of people talk about changing when they became an adult, so it's not unusual.

Sometimes with anxiety, it's not as easy as just persevering and hoping for the best. In my case my physical anxiety overwhelms me and prevents me from thinking properly and interacting normally. I keep doing the stuff I do in my life but it never gets any better with practice. Perhaps it is better to go in the deep end for exposure therapy, but that's so scary to me now.

The only thing i actually said to him was "hello, would you like a drink" "yourwelcome" and "have a good night". I would feel kind of odd asking because maybe he would be feel bad for me noticing his shyness before because it bothers me sometimes when i get called shy and stuff. Although he did dramatically improve so. I was thinking of trying Toastmasters because like you said for a job you should be able to talk and stuff, but scared to actually do it since who knows i might know someone there etc. I saw some people on youtube doing exposure and filming it, maybe you could try that?