struggling with social phobia as a mum

Mrs_G

Mrs_G

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Hi guys,

My name is Claudette. I'm 25 and have a beautiful baby boy. 2010 is just around the corner and I have decided that this year will be a fresh start. He's old enough to enjoy places and rememeber them. I have been going out with my mum etc to playgroup and such but no where near enough. I want to go out daily, even for a newspaper so he gets some fresh air. Social phobia has turned into a little aggorophobia, but i'm fne with mum or my husband.

I have set up a facebook page called Social phobia - New mums dealing with baby and fears

here's the link:
Social phobia - New mums dealing with baby and fears. | Facebook

It may encourage you to share your anxiety, goals and achievements. Being in the UK, maybe us mums can meet at playgroup etc and start letting our babies enjoy life from now on. Hope to see you there.

Claudette Burden Glitherow xxx
 
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Lol Serafina, most of us can't even approach the opposite sex without feeling like our hearts will jump out from our chests. >.>
 
Mrs_G

Mrs_G

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Yeah, I wouldn't say being a parent with social phobia is irresponsible. I have been blessed.My husband is the most rational man i've ever known, he can talk anyone out of teir head. We laugh so hard at the most random s*hit my sides actually start to burn. M son hasn't been affected at all, as sometimes yes, i'll feel unconnected, but it's only a thought and i bring myself back with a cheese smile. He is the most happy baby in the world. He goes out with me, i'm not on my own we'll go with grandma or nanna but he still sees the world, and it pushes me to start a convo with other mums. It's great to see some mums not actaully wanting to talk to others, just at plagroup with their kids. it's the click of mums i cant stand, their kids will come up to me and i'll be natural, relaxed, smile and chatty, will say something to one mum, the will smile and sa one thing... but never introduce themselves or make me feel welcome, which i tr to do if i see someone on their own. But my son really enjoys it. Some people arent as fortunate to meet someone yet, but the will. The right person, who'll see their true beaut and understand the sh*it we go through. Anyone in between will simply be a waste of time/energy.
 
Mrs_G

Mrs_G

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exactly, It is social phobia though. I do the same when someones talking to me. Start thinking thoughts like "I don't care, just go away" I also didn't sign up to a large prenatal class because the only thing in common would be our bumps. I can't be arsed with it. This face book page is meant to have the same affect this place does on me. you read others posts and feel for them, realise you're not alone. You may even connect? Reading about what they've done, who they thought "f*ck off you fake cow" about and how they overcame it. Might kick off. the more fans the better

hope to chat to you there, you might be able to give me a few tips lol What's worse for me is i have very few friends, but am hooking up with older friends again from school who now hve kiddies. it's still a lonely place to be though! *smalest violin in the world* lol

Social phobia - New mums dealing with baby and fears. | Facebook
 
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lurknomore

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I'm a mom with SA... and right now I have no friends to "connect with," mothers or not... and I'm divorced, so my kids are pretty much my only source of social interaction (besides online).

It is a little worrying to me how I might be affecting them... but my daughter (who is 7) so far is the most social person I know, and I have been "forced" into a few less than comfortable situations because of that... but I think it's good for me. I don't seem to have rubbed off on her... yet. My son (6) is autistic though, and I do worry about his "social" prospects since he won't really be able to learn too many social skills from me. Perhaps I'll join the group, even though I'm nowhere near the UK.
 
Mrs_G

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I barely have any friends apart from those online, Lurknomore. Even if it is to say "hey, this happened to me today and I was strong enough to not give a **** about what others thought of me" could be supportive, make you/me stronger. I dunno, just thought it would be a good idea. Doesn't matter where you are from x
Claudette
 
Mrs_G

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i'd just like 2010 to be a fresh start, but not to over do it and freak out but to take small steps, make steady achievements with my son and help him/me enjoy the world a little. I'd hate my fears to affect him.
 
Remus

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Someone chatted to me who wanted to join this but is put off by the fact "single men without children" have joined your club. They did not want to comment on this so asked me to.
 
Mrs_G

Mrs_G

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they are my friends who added to promote, they will not be anything to do with the site, if you could tell her if she joins i will remove them, they were just helping me out and spreading the word on their facebook page. I hope this doesn't discourage her, i' in the same boat and would love to hear from her.
 
Remus

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someone from SAUK added me as a freind on facebook, then added my 15 year old daughter, sent her pervy messages. I ended up reporting them to the ceop. I'm now hugely cautious
 
Mrs_G

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Thanks guys, aww. Yes perhaps it was stupid, those guys were actually just friends of mine trying to promote, so others would see it on their page and if they had a friend of a friend with SA and didn't even know, that they would join. I always found this site very helpful, to read others posts and not feel was the only one going through this. It can get so difficult at time with my child, i find it hard to get on a bus incase i make a fool out of my self or others think i look too young or to selfish (i like to look nice and take care of my apearence... not like a made up tart but just not a grease monkey lol) So I thought the page would encourage mums to get to know each other and motivate each other...but it doesn't look like it's something others actually want/need. Such a shame. Thought it was a good idea, i'll keep trying.
 
mrb

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lurknomore said:
I'm a mom with SA... and right now I have no friends to "connect with," mothers or not... and I'm divorced, so my kids are pretty much my only source of social interaction (besides online).

It is a little worrying to me how I might be affecting them... but my daughter (who is 7) so far is the most social person I know, and I have been "forced" into a few less than comfortable situations because of that... but I think it's good for me. I don't seem to have rubbed off on her... yet. My son (6) is autistic though, and I do worry about his "social" prospects since he won't really be able to learn too many social skills from me. Perhaps I'll join the group, even though I'm nowhere near the UK.
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yes know what you mean about you rubbing off on your kids ....mine like yours are very social ... and its a good idea about joining a mums group , mums of the spw world unite :D and god help us blokes :rolleyes::D
 
mrb

mrb

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Remus said:
someone from SAUK added me as a freind on facebook, then added my 15 year old daughter, sent her pervy messages. I ended up reporting them to the ceop. I'm now hugely cautious
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yea my daughter lives on facebook has about 15 thousand freinds .... shes only 15 as well ..... does worry me who shes talking to sometimes ....
 
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