Stop Looking For the Cause Of Anxiety

hardy

hardy

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The reason we have Social Anxiety is not Important. Our attitude towards it IS.

People who overcome problems are the one's with right attitudes.

You will have problems in Life. Everybody does. You can treat them as terrible torments, or as challenges to be overcome. If you regard them as burdens, your suffering will only increase. If you regard them as opportunities to learn and to grow, your Life prospects are unlimited.

Treat the symptoms,negative thoughts and other obstacles as Teachers. Let them be...accepting the symptoms , the thoughts and all the UN-pleasantness is the first step in recovery. And then comes seeing the true nature of these things. All the anxiety symptoms are impermanent. If one can be Mindful of Anxiety....he/she will understand it's true nature....which is "Impermanent".

Problems are there when we are blind to true nature of situations.

It is Possible to overcome Social-Anxiety I think. Acceptance and seeing Impermanence.
 
hardy

hardy

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Story on Right attitude

While certain attitude make us feel work is miserable, another kind of attitude (Right) makes it pleasant….do you agree?

Once in a village several people were engaged in construction of a temple.


A wandering sage passing by wants to know what is happing there, so he asks a person cutting stone: "What are you doing?"


The labourer replies with frustration: "Don't you see that I am cutting stone? It's a hard stone. Look at my hands!

They have become red. Work is hell. And to make matters worse, you ask me what I am doing. How I wish I were not doing this!"


The sage asks: “I see you are cutting stone, but let me know what is coming up here?" The stonecutter replies that he has

no idea; it does not concern him. He is disinterested.


The sage next goes to another man and asks him the same question: "What are you doing?"


The man replies: "I'm cutting stone here; that's my job. For eight hours of work I get paid Rs 100. I have a wife and children to take care of. I'm doing my duty."


The sage asks him: "Do you know what is coming up here?"


He says: "Yes, they say they're making a temple. How does it matter to me, whether what is being constructed is a temple or a jail, as long as I get paid?"


Then the sage goes to a third worker who is also cutting stone and poses the same question.

The man replies: "We are building a temple. There is no temple here; every year at festivals we have to trek to the temple in the next village. You know, every time I hit the stone I hear wonderful music. The temple work has put the sleepy village in a festive mood."

The sage asks: "How long do you have to work on this project?"


The man says the timeline is not his concern for as soon as he wakes up in the morning, he gets ready for work and begins cutting stone. He tells the sage that he spends the entire day here, taking a break between mealtimes. "When I go home in the night and sleep, in my dream I think of this construction and feel grateful that I enjoy the work I do, I am truly blessed," he said.


Three men doing the same work have three different attitudes. The first person thinks it's hell, the second looks upon his work as his duty. However, the third worker thinks what he is able to do is a blessing.
 
Tavon

Tavon

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It's true that looking for it will probably just be a waste of time and cause frustration. But those nights where I'm depressed as hell and I can't stop screaming "Why?!" to myself I can't help but want to find something concrete to blame my problems on. Human nature I suppose.
 
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