Starting a new school/college soon - need advice

Luka

Luka

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I'm 15 at the moment and sooner or later I have to pick new colleges/sixth forms to attend to to start my A-levels. I'm nervous as it is to start a higher education; but having to go to a brand new school/college where there a new students and teachers are around is troubling my mind. At school right now I have only a few friends anyway (but I'm thankful) and feel lonely a lot of the time but in a years time I'll be in a new environment with no one I know around. I don't know how I can manage having no friends at all and being the loner.

I've always been shy all my life and only came to a realisation that I had social anxiety a year ago. It's difficult for me to connect with other people and I envy people with tons of friends. I have considered home schooling myself when I start my A-levels but it's much more expensive than home schooling for GCSEs and I'm in a public school atm. There really is no choice but to go to a public school/college. So if there's any advice on how to fit in on the first day or something I'd really really appreciate it!

Thanks :)
 
Srijita52

Srijita52

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I don't have any specific helpful advice but I only can speak for myself that a new environment's been a good change for me to start things over. Also you need to actively engage yourself in socialising, talk to people you think you might like, engage in their conversations and act as if you already know them. Its something I've learned that if I want a social life, I need to do all the work. I know its hard though, don't beat yourself too much if you don't make a lot of friends on the first day or a few weeks, it can get better. Good luck.
 
mismeek

mismeek

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What helped me was to not think of it as a social enviornment. Just think of it as a place you are obligated to go to get your education. I didn't worry about trying to talk to people or to "fit in" I just focused on my studies and classes, and inadvertenly i made friends because people saw how studious I was and asked me to help them study. I hope it helps.

also try sitting at the front of the classrooms. people are more apt to talking to you if you do! :)
 
Luka

Luka

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Srijita52 said:
I don't have any specific helpful advice but I only can speak for myself that a new environment's been a good change for me to start things over. Also you need to actively engage yourself in socialising, talk to people you think you might like, engage in their conversations and act as if you already know them. Its something I've learned that if I want a social life, I need to do all the work. I know its hard though, don't beat yourself too much if you don't make a lot of friends on the first day or a few weeks, it can get better. Good luck.
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That's true! It is a new change and I should be more positive about it, thank you :)
 
Luka

Luka

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mismeek said:
What helped me was to not think of it as a social enviornment. Just think of it as a place you are obligated to go to get your education. I didn't worry about trying to talk to people or to "fit in" I just focused on my studies and classes, and inadvertenly i made friends because people saw how studious I was and asked me to help them study. I hope it helps.

also try sitting at the front of the classrooms. people are more apt to talking to you if you do! :)
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I guess it's important to see it that way as the main reason to go there is to learn and get the qualifications I need! Thanks for the advice I'll definitely use it :D
 
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