(sorry if I posted this in the wrong area)

[A friend]

Last week, I experienced something that made me feel sick for three days...

I was doing well with my work on getting rid of needing a soul-mate, and I was almost finished with becoming asexual...And the night after, I had a nightmare which involved me drowning in a sewer full of disgusting creatures, and I almost vomited once I woke up.

And after that, it just got even worse, it got so nasty that I can't even think or talk about it. Once I decided to look for a girlfriend the day after, I didn't experience anything like it. But after the next day, I started trying to pull the plug on needing to have love again, and despite the fact that I had a great day, and having a positive night (with no negativity of any kind before going to sleep), another series of terrible nightmares occured once again.
D:


What's happening in the interior of my brain?

 

[Feathers]

maybe your subconsciousness is trying to tell you something?

what if you just leave the issue alone for a while and focus on other things? eg making friends, having a good life, etc. working on improving the money/career or education areas etc? Or if those areas are all covered and you are doing well, just look for a girlfriend, haha? there's no law against it...

what exactly were you doing, visualisation exercises or what?

 

[A friend]

The day during the most recent nightmare, I was at a birthday party, and my focus was on something completely different (plus, I was watching 24, which completely sucked my mind out of any topics or thoughts I had before).

And I was way too distracted to think about the topic regarding love & relationships.

 

[0hs0luckyyx3]

Creatures
To see a faceless creature in your dream, indicates a situation you are refusing to see or confront, but are aware of it in some passive way. This dream also suggests that something in your life is bringing up feelings of fear and insecurities.�


Sewer
To see a sewer in your dream, signifies putrid conditions and old relationships. Something needs to be cleaned up or immediately changed. You need to let go of your outdated ideas and beliefs.

To see a sewer pipe in your dream, represents the flow of unconscious material being suppressed deeper and deeper. You need to address these issues before it overflows.


^^^ dreammoods.com I use this all the time

 

[Minty]

I don't know about the dreams...but please don't try to suppress your desire to be in a relationship. It's a natural desire that you should embrace. Just try to accept that it won't happen immediately--that it could be years before you find the right person. But you won't be emotionally healthy if you try to abolish in yourself what is a natural human instinct.

And if you suppress your sexual needs, that doesn't make you asexual. An asexual person is one who has no sex drive. Hiding your drive doesn't change your orientation.

Hope the nightmares stop for you soon. They sound awful.

 

[Feathers]

the pictures you see during the way can get 'imprinted' in your subconscious mind - so you might wanna surround yourself with pleasant films or pictures.. or maybe read something easy and relaxing.. especially before sleep..

I would avoid any thrillers or 'gruesome movies' during the day just-in-case too.. my grandma had terrible nightmares and she's watched a lot of 'crime scene' TV series and films and such..

If you were at a birthday party, alcohol and sweets or greasy food or such could have something to do with it too.. some people can get bad dreams from indigestion..

it also helps me to write down exact contents of a dream, on a piece of paper, immediately after I woke up, and it adds distance to think about it, what it could mean..

there are some books about dreams and symbols too.. water can mean the feelings etc. a house can mean your personality.. symbols can be very individual though, sometimes different people will interpret the same things differently..

my dad used to write dreams in a journal and used a big dream book to interpret them, sometimes it was helpful, sometimes he only figured out a week later what it meant.. dreams can be like poems or art movies - they don't say things directly.. sometimes they can speak about the future a bit, sometimes only about the past or our own fears or anxieties..
it may be helpful for you to learn more about dreams... some people can even change dreams when they are dreaming, there are even books for this..

when I wake up, it sometimes helps to pray or something, even if you're not very religious try it?
or maybe recite poetry or excerpt from a good book?

Oh, and what Minty said - brilliantly put! It's natural to want to be with someone.. just accept it might happen in time, and focus on being a good person for when you meet someone you could be with, and have a meaningful life meanwhile too...

Brave of you to go to a birthday party!!

 

[A friend]

The last nightmare was actually frightenening due to an embarassing factor from years ago...I won't tell you everything...But the embarassing event was in middle school, and involved a group of kids tricking me into believing and doing something stupid...

The dream involved me drowning within a bedraggled swamp that was flooding to the point where it was becoming an almost underground ocean, and all the embarassing things from the past were there.

The only way I could prevent another horrid scene like that in my sleep was by lying to myself that I could have a lover someday, and that I didn't have to worry.

That's the thing, if I keep thinking about love, I'll stress out and have another seizure. Each time one happens, I lose a few brain cells and my immune system gets weaker. I also lost some muscle mass last time.

The praying sounds like it can help me though...

 

[Feathers]

Hope the praying helps

By telling yourself that you could have a lover/girlfriend/best friend/wife/that special someone someday, and that you didn't have to worry, you're not 'lying' to yourself.. it's a possibility - be open to the possibility..
There's a difference between 'obsessing about something' and being miserable that it hasn't happened yet - and trusting the Universe or god's will to bring someone your way, if it's meant to be..
maybe you could pray for a girlfriend/wife/that special other too?
that she may be healthy and loving and caring and come your way soon..?
maybe someone somewhere is looking for someone like you...
you can't 'force' these things though, usually they just 'happen', it may take some proactivity, but also being open to a possibility...
there are some dating books for Christians too, been meaning to read one.. look in your library or on Amazon..

that you don't need to worry is true - usually things happen as they do anyway.. have you heard the song 'suncreen' I posted it in another thread but I really like it, so it's here again: (I especially like the quote about worrying )
worrying is only effective if you write down things so you can do stuff against that - put thoughts into journal, apply CBT (I like The Feeling Good Handbook by Dr David Burns, shows you how to do that), then brainstorm for solutions...

YouTube - Everybody's Free to Wear Sunscreen! (Original + English Subtitles)



wishing you a peaceful mind and peaceful life... and good dreams!!