Klaus, do you have friends/family that live near you? When my car got totaled (thankfully I was pissed enough about it that it over-rode my SA a little) at someone else's fault the first thing i did was get my phone out and call my sister and my dad... i had walked off the street to a gas station and didn't even confront the guy who hit me until after the police got there. and he was more scared than i was. but i held my phone to my ear and ignored him until police did arrive, even after i was done talking to them and they'd hung up, i just pretended i was still talking to someone because i didn't want to face him.
AND i was scared i wouldn't know how to properly transfer information with him, or that i might accidentally give him info he didn't need that he could somehow use to exploit the situation... i pretty much was a nervous wreck now that i'm playing the event back over in my head. and it took me forever to find my dang proof of registration and insurance card to show the police (another anxiety attack there). thankfully the police guys were pretty lax and seemed like they weren't too pissed about having to mediate over the accident. plus the whole thing wasn't my fault.
i know exactly what you were going through, accidents are a terrifying situation even if it's not your fault. in the miliseconds before the dude slammed into me basically head-on at 40mph i was thinking--oh crap i'm gonna have to deal with this guy face to face, with cops present, what if it do something wrong? i didn't even feel my face hit the airbag or even wince from the impact, just got out of my car and started fighting the rising anxiety. thankfully my sister and parents showed up after some 20 min to help... strangely enough they made the situation worse by trying to get too involved lol.
so to anyone who's afraid of confronting some1 after an accident, just call family and police first thing off, and don't even talk to the person you had the accident with, don't even acknowledge he/she exists until the police get there (use selective mutism on him/her), then tell the police you've never been in an accident before or you're feeling a bit unwell from the collision and they'll mediate for you. if the person gets hostile with you, stay in your car (unless it's on fire or something) and tell him you're not going to talk to him until the police arrive to mediate.
i used to be real afraid of police (not cause i'm a serial killer or anything
), but after being pulled over for minor issues like a busted headlight or missing tags i've learned that police are really nice most of the time. one time two officers pulled me over cause i was walking to the convenience store at 3am and i guess i looked suspicious, and these cops were some bored mo'fo's. after they asked me if i had drugs on me and i told them i didn't, suddenly we were just chatting for s***'s and giggles for like 10 minutes. one of the cops was into rap and we started spitting some rhymes right there on the street.
i guess it's kind of sad when you like being pulled over because it means you get to socialize with another human being :
:.