Some random thoughts...

[Alone97]

Really questioning why I even joined this forum. I mean most people have been kind and supportive but I've had people tell me I'm spoiled, that I'm ungrateful for breaking expensive things but I have anger management problems its like at the point where I get angry I do things without thinking of consequences, I literally see red, I start shaking and if this ever happens I sometimes cry with anger or scream. After I break things I feel ashamed with myself and when I decided to share a time when I wasn't able to control my anger I got called spoiled. Some of the comments made by this particular person were fair but some o it felt like bullying. I've suffered through cyber bullying through Facebook before and I never in a million years thought in a place where I thought I would fit in I would be so cruelly attacked with words. I found it unfair considering this person doesn't know me or my story. I thought this was a place not to be judged. Guess not, I feel confused and betrayed in a way (sorry if that sounds dramatic) lately I've been worrying about what I write on this now with fear of being judged, I've had to put up with being judged,rejected,bullied,betrayed by friends so many times before. I have trust issues and bullying has caused me to never be myself and only one friend.
Obviously the person who said those horrible things that really hurt me didn't bother to read my bio, I suffer from depression, bipolar disorder and anger management.
I just thought this was a place I could be myself.

 

[Valhalla]

There can be setbacks on forums, I understand it is harder if you have social difficulties. There are lots of friendly people here, see if you can listen to the people you like, and not the things that make you feel bad.

 

[Alone97]

Thank you, I do try but like I said I have trust issues and I get easily paranoid. When people say nice things to me I think they have a hidden agenda. It's hard.

 

[planemo]

I don't think it's fair for people to place negative value judgements especially on here, since our entire situation cannot be fully expressed and comprehended. there's nothing wrong to feel upset when this has happened. i often feel ,especially on a support site, if people have nothing good to say they should say nothing at all.

personally i wouldn't take it to mind, although i have left websites due to similar treatment. one thing you have to understand though is that even in places like this which is a support site, where we hope to escape negative value judgements (based on trivial info) and to escape cliques and the resultant including some - excluding others behaviour, will never be able to fulfill it.

i left a certain website even though it was meant to be a support site, because bullying and hate speech (towards certain people) were accepted.

unfortunately there's no place on the web or in reality where we can feel completely free of these feelings.

try to focus on the positive and ignore anything unduly negative.

 

[NathanielWingatePeaslee]

Really questioning why I even joined this forum. I mean most people have been kind and supportive but I've had people tell me I'm spoiled, that I'm ungrateful for breaking expensive things but I have anger management problems its like at the point where I get angry I do things without thinking of consequences, I literally see red, I start shaking and if this ever happens I sometimes cry with anger or scream. After I break things I feel ashamed with myself and when I decided to share a time when I wasn't able to control my anger I got called spoiled. Some of the comments made by this particular person were fair but some o it felt like bullying. I've suffered through cyber bullying through Facebook before and I never in a million years thought in a place where I thought I would fit in I would be so cruelly attacked with words. I found it unfair considering this person doesn't know me or my story. I thought this was a place not to be judged. Guess not, I feel confused and betrayed in a way (sorry if that sounds dramatic) lately I've been worrying about what I write on this now with fear of being judged, I've had to put up with being judged,rejected,bullied,betrayed by friends so many times before. I have trust issues and bullying has caused me to never be myself and only one friend.
Obviously the person who said those horrible things that really hurt me didn't bother to read my bio, I suffer from depression, bipolar disorder and anger management.
I just thought this was a place I could be myself.

Humans will be human, regardless of what website they're on at the moment.

If someone was bullying or harassing you, I strongly suggest reporting them. The mod team here is quite good at taking care of that sort of behavior.