Social Phobia at work

Daz

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I just started a new job after 5 months out of work. Luckily (I think?) there was someone else that started on the same day as me. He's the only person I've really spoke to since starting apart from asking for help.

I was much more chatty on my first day but I'm starting to run out of things to speak about ::(:

This is my problem. If I had the words, I would force them out. I just don't know what to say.
 

Jodie-Tyler

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Thanks for the reply, Jodie. Unfortunately, I'm not well enough to work because of my mental state. I get by on the benefits I receive, my hobbies and the love for a good cuppa and a ciggie :)


HA! Yeah I do love my tea! You never see me without a mug of tea in my hand :)
 

Jodie-Tyler

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(would you have to work with complaints or something?)..

No, I would work on the same floor as reception. It's an open plan office, so visitors that came in would come to reception (which is on the 2nd floor not as you enter our building) and see lots of people working behind the reception desk. My job will be to cover reception when the receptionist goes for lunch or off sick etc, not looking forward to that, they've asked me to cover for them before and i've turned them down each time.
I would also have to arange meetings and escort people to and from meeting rooms and ask them if they wanted tea or coffe, stuff like that.
I can barely talk as it is, so I have no idea how I'm going to cope.

Also, the people who will be in the meetings usually work in the same building and have meetings frequently, so they're used to a routine and being the new person next month, I'm starting from square one and they'll either repect that I'm new and be patient and be really annoyed because they are very high up!


(Can you get the boss to send you e-mails on what to do the previous day/night, so you'd know what to do?..

My tasks for the day do get emailed to me throughout the day. So when I come in each morning, around 8am, even though my shift isnt until 9am, I read through them all so I'm already doing that. :)


(Also, are you working on you sa? (CBT, anti-SA 'Step by step' program etc?)..
Not really, this site helps SOOO much, and friends who now all about my SP are really supportive, but as for 'working on it' not really, it's just earier to avoid the scary situation than to face it. But of course the more you avoid it the more scary it becomes.
I went out a few weeks ago to a show/concert/gig whatever you call it, and I had 2 glasses of wine and all my SP went right out the window. I wasnt drunk, but I no fear of people or talking and it was the most amazing nights of my life.
However I'm not going to rely on alcohol to calm my SP, that's A-unhealthy and B-Dangerous.
 
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bitingthepea

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I just started a new job after 5 months out of work. Luckily (I think?) there was someone else that started on the same day as me. He's the only person I've really spoke to since starting apart from asking for help.

I was much more chatty on my first day but I'm starting to run out of things to speak about ::(:

This is my problem. If I had the words, I would force them out. I just don't know what to say.

Sounds like me, im fine at my first day of work but then i find less and less to talk about as the days go on then im finally muted! i wish i could just go up to someone and have a conversation like normal ppl do!
 
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