Social Phobia and women.

[lonely4231]

So maybe it's that I'm unattractive or something but I have noticed whenever I have to talk to women whether it's going shopping or going to the bank or anything like that they are usually quite rude to me.
I know women can sense fear do you think this is the reason?

 

[StonedBob]

Actually, I think people can (unconsciously) sense fear, they can see (unconsciously again) that you're shaking, they might hear your voice is trembling, etc... And because they realize that you're nervous, they unconsciously react to this (they might think : "what's wrong with this guy", etc...).
But I also think our SA is exagerating all thiss. E.g. : when you're shopping, the cashier might be rude, not because you're nervous, but simply because she had a bad day, is bored by her job, etc... But, your SA makes you feel that you're responsible of her rudeness. She might not even realize you're nervous, because she's focusing on her job.

 

[Hoth]

I surely emanate fear very strongly (no eye contact, etc), and neither women nor men seem any more rude to me than they are to everyone else. Sure you're not just looking for it and expecting it and thus seeing it more? What do they do exactly?

 

[Anubis]

Do you practice good hygiene? Sometimes us social phobes forget that very important part of social conversation because we're so unused to dealing with people.

 

[Havocan]

Women do have the ability to sense fear, and whether you like or not, it's in a lot of cases a turn-off. Looks and appearance is important but not necessarily the most important thing, what seems to be the requirements for most girls today are self-confidence, ambitions, intelligence, hygiene and so on. If you don't think you're smart, funny, intelligent, then a woman doesn't either. Sadly. That's why life is extra hard on us SA males, especially those who are nervous around girls^^.

 

[no1]

well its like something someone said to me before. if somenoe senses fear.. some might unconsciously try to dominate. and some women find that a turn off, whether unconsciously or "consciously" and I say it with quotes because maybe fear doesn't HAVE to be that much of a turn off.

 

[Ubersonic]

If I hear laughter across a room I automatically assume they are laughing at me for some reason. Since I'm always worrying about rejection, I tend to think things are directed at me.

what seems to be the requirements for most girls today are self-confidence, ambitions, intelligence, hygiene and so on.

wow if that is true then I may actually remain single for life :/

 

[SickJoke]

If women are consistently rude to you, obviously you're doing something wrong. If you come across as reactive and needy, women will quickly become annoyed. It's impossible for me to say what you're doing wrong, because you haven't given enough information. At what point to they start being rude to you? How are you acting in these situations? And yes, women can sense fear; so can men. But I'm not rude to people who appear to be afraid, so you're probably doing something else wrong.