So I'm gonna try and do this right

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Krista

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I took a huge leap today and told this guy that I've known for awhile that I think he's cute and we should go out sometime. Granted I felt like I was going to vomit all over the floor but I tried to push that aside and just do it. I've went to school with this kid and feel semi comfortable around him and he agreed. He told me he always thought I was cute too and he's liked me for awhile. It's a confidence booster but I know it won't be enough to keep my mind off the plaguing doubts I always keep about myself.

I'm nervous that all my thoughts are going to be on making this a successful date and when they day actually comes I'll do what I'll always do and that's hyperventilate. So I have to tell myself:

THINGS I WILL NOT DO

Feel like I have to look perfect for them.

Believe that in my head they're thinking about hurtful or malicious things about me.

Shut down, not talk, refuse to make eye contact or become paranoid.

Convince myself that I'm not good enough for them, I'll never be good enough for them or that I have to change my appearance just to please them.

Over analyze things they say or do and take them as gestures that they don't want to be around me, that I'm boring them or they are displeased with me in some way.


THINGS I WILL DO

Try to look nice but not over do it and feel useless with myself.

Know that I'm a good person and someone he likes, no need to over think things.

Know that if it doesn't go well, it's not the end of the world.

Try to remember that he enjoys me for who I am and expects to go out on a date with the girl he knows, not the neurotic mess I can be.

Feel good about myself and not doubt that I'm a special person.
 
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Krista

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Oh I bet you can, I have faith in you. I just know that I'm tired of being alone because of this and ruining relationships. It's also easier said than done and I know it's gonna be a lot harder than I make it out for myself but you can do it, I promise!
 
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Krista

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Well it certainly wasn't easy. We just started talking about not being able to find a job, which I can certainly relate to right now since it's proving difficult and like I said I know him so I was kinda comfortable with talking to him. I just tried to remember that I was tired of sabotaging relationships with guys because of my anxiety and definitely tired of being alone. So even though I felt like the world was going to end if he said no or even gave me a side glance that I perceived as something different, it was ok to just ask. And he said yes. Somehow that's the easy part though. The real test is going to be going through with it and not feeling like everyone's waiting for me to fail.
 
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206Raider

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You'll do great, no worries. Sounds like you have it planned out so follow through on your goals up top and you'll be fine. good luck
 
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