SO happy i found this place!

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hammersuk

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Hi guys,

New poster here.

found the sight while reading up on social phobia.

I really do think i have finally got to the bottom of what has been wrong with me.

For the last few years and getting steadily worse i have been haviong real problems interacting with others.

It started with racing heart and blushing/sweating etc when it was my birthday n people would sing happy birthday. getting a bit nervous meeting new people etc but has developed into complete social breakdown.

It now interferes with my daily life.

I am in HR and interveiw new employees, which is great when ur pouring with sweat.

I cant go to parties without a nightmare the week before about wether im gonna sweat and look a fool.

I darent meet up with old freinds through fear of sweating. Everything i do is plauged by sweating!!!

Today i took my little boy to visit his playgroyup to have a look around before he starts next week.

I didnt hear a word the teacher was telling me at all because all i could think of was how much of a weirdo she must have thought i was pouring with sweat! then when i did speak i came up with rubbish!!!

It really is dibilitating! Id like to think of myself as a pretty intelligent guy but when u have this THING it just makes u feel small and seperate to anybody else! and unable to funtion normally!

Im just looking round the forum and reading other peoples experiences. I hope to post more sense later but just so overwhelmed and pleased to fuinally meet people that understand and wont think im weird!!!!
 
Livingwithoutlivin

Livingwithoutlivin

Well-known member
Welcome!

The amusing thing to me about " sweating" is that it's rarely ever happened to me, except the times when I'm able to hide my anxiety from showing up on my face.

I had this one time when my bf, his asian friend, and mom and me were at a restaurant, and I was so anxious, but i knew that I had to keep it together, so I kept a really straight face, as if I was not having a panic attack, but damn my back felt so damn hot, and I was starting to sweat, but it was mostly coming from the back, never did a leather chair feel so damn hot, but the heat was coming from my body. But on the face, I think I looked more serious than fearful.

At both of the two jobs I have gotten, and at my first interview, I've witnessed the manager and assitant managers become nervous while interviewing me and not making eye contact. The funny thing is that at that time I did not have panic attacks or anxiety at all. In fact I was very good at handling those interviews, except for the last one. The main managers, I witnessed him having severed panick attacks while working the register, and getting all red. At my interview with him, he rarely looked me, he kept writing down on a piece of paper, keeping his head down, and his skin was a little red, he looked very nervous, and I witnessed him having panic attacks while working the register and getting all red. I get a general sense, that so many people in my area have panic attacks or anxiety, people on the bus. It makes me very scared that more and more people are having this issue nowadays, I dont' want the world to be full of people that suffer like us, because we aren't always there, we are stuck in one viewpoint of life. The creativity and capabilities that we have are stunted by some awful ghost that haunts us into being afraid to do so much.
 
Nicholas

Nicholas

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Welcome. I think I am the same, I sweat way too much, and I started to get worried when I noticed I was so scared of social situations because of my excessive sweating and hot flushes, like I'm blushing but I don't get red. Then it became worse and worse, until it affected all my self-esteem and life (I couldn't stand going to college anymore). Now I am stuck and I don't know what to do, I can't even walk in the sun if it's hot or I turn into a walking shower. I am still pretty young though, so I am looking for a solution, because I really can't live this way.
 
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hammersuk

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Very hard to find others in the same boat! great to see its not as uncommon as i thought! Its really weird for me to cos grwoing up right up till 16 i was a drama student and always doing publicf stuff but over last 10 years i went from super confident to super well unconfident mr sweat in public!! lol
 
Ihateit

Ihateit

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I was happy also when I heard about this place. I remember my psychologist told me about it years ago when I first started my sessions with her.
 
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hammersuk

New member
funny mines mainly from the head. Like i just picked my boy up from the childminder and i was in the hallways talking to the teen daughter n my head started like it was on fire, then u feel the first few beads, that makes it worse! Its cold outside so i cnt use the weather as an excuse and i then see her eye raise to my forehead! complete meltdown! it sounds funny but it really is like living with some awful monstaer plauging u!
 
Livingwithoutlivin

Livingwithoutlivin

Well-known member
I used to at one point be so upbeat and talkative to people, but then I had a few experiences were people were pretty much looking at me weird, because I talked to much, or because I had so much energy, and those experiences have stayed with me forever, but now the main complaint people make is that I'm so quiet, and that I don't talk or make eye contact or am depressed.

Now I see how I got to this point, people kicked me when I was both ways, when I was normal, upbeat, happy, talkative, it was wrong, and now that I dont' talk or do much, they kick me too.

When I was just being me, talking, just being who I was being at the time, being moderate, there was still something wrong... I could never damn win!


All the crap that I've been fed has molded me into somebody who is ashamed, who panicks about existing, about how to be, how to act, because both ways, I've been told that I'm wrong... how the hell am I supposed to be?

the worst thing we can do is assume that others are right, because they are so wrong, and sometimes people take for granted the good qualities you had, because they found you threatening, or took for granted that you were one of the rare nice people in the world.
 
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