smiling at strangers, am I inhuman?

[Reiji Moritsugu]

At least you try to smile...I hardly try to do that because I
hate how my face looks when I´m doing that. If someone were
to ask me I´d say my smile looks fake and almost creepy, like
the joker from batman >_> I guess I´m too used to having
a serious facial expression or something.

I can relate to what you said earlier about some people not
being able to change, because that´s how I´ve been feeling
nowadays. Wondering if some things are even within the realm of possibility.

 

[I_Walk_Alone]

Yep, the old cringe n' snarl

Just remember to pucker up a bit, that way you'll be more aware of your facial features, and a shy polite smile will be more readily available.

Just remember, you dont have to go all out and give a massive flashy smile.

Who does?

 

[SammyT]

I generally smile at people, my mum always told me to when I was younger. In fact I was generally taught to put other peoples feelings before my own and look wherre it landed me. Ha! ok yeah i'm veryy compassionate, its not such a bad thing

 

[I_Walk_Alone]

**** i'm impressed.

I gotta say.

 

[CeeJay1981]

It appears from reading your post that you have an underlying core belief that you are weak and stupid. The trouble with core beliefs is that they aren't inherently true but we make them APPEAR true by doing three things:
1) We DELETE or disregard any evidence to the contrary.
2) We DISTORT what we percieve to confirm the belief to ourselves (imagining that women are annoyed with us when it could be any number of reasons)
3) We ACT in such a way that makes them come true (for example we act all weak and stupid and we attract people who don't llike that type of person)

The shift happens when you realise that your core beliefs are illusion and that you can CHOOSE which beliefs to have based on the RESULTS you want instead.

Take it easy

 

[Anubis]

it's been getting a bit better. sometimes I just smile and not care if they dont smile back. though I've taken it personal. oh well.

You're gonna hate hearing this (and I did as well I first heard it), but if you take the pleasure/displeasure of people personally then you are JUST as materialistic as they are.

Materialism is essentially a philosophy that is focused on forming deep attachment to the plights of this world. In fact, a materialist's attachments to this world are so deeply entrenched that his/her heart severely aches with anxiety when they lose something, and absolutely enrages with anger when they want something.

Everyone experiences anxiety and anger, but it is the people who experience these emotions the most that are the ones who are the most materialistic. This is because these people are so fearful of losing what they already have (which isn't much) that they are absolutely torn with emotion when there's any threat of losing it.

It's one of the worst "diseases" of the heart IMO. And I have it just as bad as you do.

 

[recluse]

We live in an era where people don't trust others, and i'd say that this is the safe thing to do. I mean you can't look at a child now without being accused of being a paedophile! This is why many people act so cold, because you just don't know who to trust. Ok a stranger might be genuine but they might also be a dangerous person, we never know.

I'd say that 99% of the time i've had positive responces from people just by smiling at them.

 

[CeeJay1981]

I would ask what your reason is for wanting to smile at strangers. If you are looking for some kind of positive reinforcement from others then I would suggest you are on the wrong track.

I understand that your father has drawn your attention to something and now you are thinking about it. The truth is that it probably just points to some insecurity HE has about himself that he is projecting onto you.

Do yourself a favour and quit listening to him and listening to YOU. What do YOU want from life. Ultimately you are going to have to get away from your parents because they are holding you back. It's a big step but it's something you must aim for.

Good luck

 

[desperatehousewife]

Just be happy and behave like yourself, do what you want.Do not smile because it is a necessary or your dad said so.When you are really happy, you already smile.
Then do not smile when you think it is not necessarry...
And I think it is irritating to look at someone who is always smiles at me.I think that he or she is sarcastic with me and it is annoying.Sorry...

You are you.