simpsons2007
Well-known member
A lot has happened since I was last on here. So I decided to write a boring diary thingy to update you all.
It must be well over 6 months since I was last on here. I stopped coming on here because I had hit rock bottom and fell off the wagon big time. I'm still off the wagon but I'm slowly trying to get back on it day by day.
Some of the regulars of SPW might know that I had an assessment to get some help. Which was maybe 9/10 months ago. I finally got some help which was about 5 months after the assessment I had. After having no help from anyone for over a yr. I was just getting used to seeing this lady I was seeing for about 4 months. And she was coming over once a week for an hr and then she told me that she has been moved to a different county to work in. And I would no longer see her. When she told me I was disappointed and felt let down. It was like I was being passed off from one person to another just like before. I've only meet this other lady who took over from the previous one twice so far and she seems quite nice. I feel quite comfortable being around her but not comfortable enough to talk to her about my problems and I don't think I will ever be able to feel comfortable talking to her (but that's just the way I am. I don't feel comfortable talking to anyone). I've never before felt comfortable being around someone. It's quite a nice feeling.
I've been let down all my life by people that I have completely no trust left to give people anymore! Not even with my own family who is also helping to support me in getting better.
It's been nearly a yr since I split up with my gf of 10yrs and living in the same house as her with our daughter. And up until 4/5 weeks ago I was still living with my ex. Then about 7 weeks ago I was told by my support worker that the council had found me a flat to move in to. And with in 2 weeks of being told about the flat I had moved out. The flat I'm living in is supported housing. Which means that there is a support worker that comes around and helps you with what ever you need help with. Its not a permanent flat. I can stay here min of 6 months to max 2yrs. The support worker will review problems after 6 months and decided then if I need to stay here longer or not. And if not I will be at the top of the housing list for a flat.
Finally I'm living away from my ex and I feel a bit more relaxed in myself. But the down side is I am extremely depressed being away from my daughter and living by myself. I have never been completely alone before. This is my first time ever in 31 yrs of life. I have always lived with someone. And now I'm having to try and cope being by myself. Which is extremely hard for me. As I can't go out to shops or go outside when other people are around.
I moved out 4 weeks ago I have only see my daughter on a Saturday's for 4 hrs. Which isn't enough for me. I would love to spend more time with her. But I know it's quite a lot for my daughter to cope with. Any longer and my daughter will get too upset. Because after about 2 hrs of daughter being with me all she wants to do is to go home and be with her mum. And when she's with me and keeps asking to go home it kills me inside. I don't let it show that it hurts me when she says that. I know it's a lot for a young child to take in that mummy and daddy are no longer living in the same house. I'm wondering whether or not it would be easier if I didn't see her anymore?
Even though I am now completely alone. I don't actually feel lonely yet but I know it's still early days. I have felt more alone when I was living with someone. If that makes since? (probably not).
I think I'll leave there for now. More has happened but it's things I don't feel able to talk about just now. I'm not too sure yet how often I'll come on here and update this.
It must be well over 6 months since I was last on here. I stopped coming on here because I had hit rock bottom and fell off the wagon big time. I'm still off the wagon but I'm slowly trying to get back on it day by day.
Some of the regulars of SPW might know that I had an assessment to get some help. Which was maybe 9/10 months ago. I finally got some help which was about 5 months after the assessment I had. After having no help from anyone for over a yr. I was just getting used to seeing this lady I was seeing for about 4 months. And she was coming over once a week for an hr and then she told me that she has been moved to a different county to work in. And I would no longer see her. When she told me I was disappointed and felt let down. It was like I was being passed off from one person to another just like before. I've only meet this other lady who took over from the previous one twice so far and she seems quite nice. I feel quite comfortable being around her but not comfortable enough to talk to her about my problems and I don't think I will ever be able to feel comfortable talking to her (but that's just the way I am. I don't feel comfortable talking to anyone). I've never before felt comfortable being around someone. It's quite a nice feeling.
I've been let down all my life by people that I have completely no trust left to give people anymore! Not even with my own family who is also helping to support me in getting better.
It's been nearly a yr since I split up with my gf of 10yrs and living in the same house as her with our daughter. And up until 4/5 weeks ago I was still living with my ex. Then about 7 weeks ago I was told by my support worker that the council had found me a flat to move in to. And with in 2 weeks of being told about the flat I had moved out. The flat I'm living in is supported housing. Which means that there is a support worker that comes around and helps you with what ever you need help with. Its not a permanent flat. I can stay here min of 6 months to max 2yrs. The support worker will review problems after 6 months and decided then if I need to stay here longer or not. And if not I will be at the top of the housing list for a flat.
Finally I'm living away from my ex and I feel a bit more relaxed in myself. But the down side is I am extremely depressed being away from my daughter and living by myself. I have never been completely alone before. This is my first time ever in 31 yrs of life. I have always lived with someone. And now I'm having to try and cope being by myself. Which is extremely hard for me. As I can't go out to shops or go outside when other people are around.
I moved out 4 weeks ago I have only see my daughter on a Saturday's for 4 hrs. Which isn't enough for me. I would love to spend more time with her. But I know it's quite a lot for my daughter to cope with. Any longer and my daughter will get too upset. Because after about 2 hrs of daughter being with me all she wants to do is to go home and be with her mum. And when she's with me and keeps asking to go home it kills me inside. I don't let it show that it hurts me when she says that. I know it's a lot for a young child to take in that mummy and daddy are no longer living in the same house. I'm wondering whether or not it would be easier if I didn't see her anymore?
Even though I am now completely alone. I don't actually feel lonely yet but I know it's still early days. I have felt more alone when I was living with someone. If that makes since? (probably not).
I think I'll leave there for now. More has happened but it's things I don't feel able to talk about just now. I'm not too sure yet how often I'll come on here and update this.