bandit said:
I have recently found out that someone that I have liked for a long time is not seeeing anyone and I would like to ask her out touble is I am too
shy to approch her, she dosent know me . Im in my late twenties and never had a girlfriend and find it difficult speaking to girls. Her friend works in a shop and I was planning to go in and speak to her only am even too embarased to do that. would be grateful for any advice
Difficult to answer this one without more details.
I feel for you mate because I've been there many times myself. The best thing I can say is to try to become friends and forget about the girlfriend thing (for now).
Guys like us shouldn't try to run before we can walk. I obsessed over girls for years without ever having any as friends. Now I have a limited number of girl friends. We are far from being close but we might go out for drinks as part of the work crowd or meet up once a month.... It's better than nothing...it's like a training process to get used to women...
The advantage of having girl friends is that they will talk to their girl friends and say stuff like "..... is a really nice guy". It's a decent starting point. Then once you get talking to their friends they will be more comfortable with you...
...unfortunately you don't want them to start thinking of you as 'a brother' so don't be too needy in front of them.
And as I've said to other people on here, make sure you are doing all the other correctly - wear decent clothes. Have a decent haircut. Keep in shape...