anomicdeer
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I've been in this relationship for 2 years now. I have my stuff packed and I have until tomorrow noon to make up my mind. Here's what's going on.
I'm having a problem (obviously) with my boyfriend. We have a child. My boyfriend doesn't help out with anything. I have to keep nagging at him about thing. I shouldn't have to. He tells me I need to in order for anything to get done . I tell him over and over again. This happened forever. After he threatened me for the 3 third( maybe more than that) time and I finally said I'm leaving. Once I started packing and told him that the internet will not be in my name anymore (he can't get it in his name) he kind of tried to get me to change my mind.
He went to his sisters and she tried telling me that I should reconsider because he loves us but doesn't show it and that it was a wake up call and that he is really hurt.
He came back the next day (today) and for the first time tell me that he doesn't want me to leave and that he wants to work it out and get better. Also that I need to keep nagging him about things, to write a list and time of things to do, that he will spend time with us.
I've done those things before so I doubt he really will do anything but maybe he will since he know I'm serious about leaving. Maybe...
I just think that he wants to keep the internet that's all. Plus he relies on my mom to get him computer parts (unnecessary things) because no one else in his family will even get it for him (he can't afford it himself).
I doubt he cares about my mom but he would USE her for her money. She didn't get anything for him lately because she knows what's going on and probably noticed that he can keep up with if she got him a computer part but not help around the house and with the baby.
I think it will just cycle again like always.
Plus with the relationships with my mom I don't know if I should be stupid and risk it happening all over again. I told myself if he threatened me to leave again then I will leave no matter what he says. Well I didn't think he would try to stop me because he seemed as if he didn't want me here.
Give me advice please. Should I leave?
I'm having a problem (obviously) with my boyfriend. We have a child. My boyfriend doesn't help out with anything. I have to keep nagging at him about thing. I shouldn't have to. He tells me I need to in order for anything to get done . I tell him over and over again. This happened forever. After he threatened me for the 3 third( maybe more than that) time and I finally said I'm leaving. Once I started packing and told him that the internet will not be in my name anymore (he can't get it in his name) he kind of tried to get me to change my mind.
He went to his sisters and she tried telling me that I should reconsider because he loves us but doesn't show it and that it was a wake up call and that he is really hurt.
He came back the next day (today) and for the first time tell me that he doesn't want me to leave and that he wants to work it out and get better. Also that I need to keep nagging him about things, to write a list and time of things to do, that he will spend time with us.
I've done those things before so I doubt he really will do anything but maybe he will since he know I'm serious about leaving. Maybe...
I just think that he wants to keep the internet that's all. Plus he relies on my mom to get him computer parts (unnecessary things) because no one else in his family will even get it for him (he can't afford it himself).
I doubt he cares about my mom but he would USE her for her money. She didn't get anything for him lately because she knows what's going on and probably noticed that he can keep up with if she got him a computer part but not help around the house and with the baby.
I think it will just cycle again like always.
Plus with the relationships with my mom I don't know if I should be stupid and risk it happening all over again. I told myself if he threatened me to leave again then I will leave no matter what he says. Well I didn't think he would try to stop me because he seemed as if he didn't want me here.
Give me advice please. Should I leave?