cowboyup
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Last night was 'date night' with SIL and the nephew. Every Friday they go out to eat and shop. I watch the little one til well, when they get home. I put in about 17 hours yesterday watching kids, and all the domestic stuff that goes with it.
Well shortly after they left, I took my niece to my room so I could just have a bit of quiet time, and so she could start to relax for bedtime. About 3 hours later, SIL came home and I heard her huffing and puffing about something. I went to see what was going on. The dog had pooed and threw up on the rug then my nephew accidentally stepped in it and of course went all over. It was a stinky mess.
I took both kids upstairs (out of the way) so she could clean it up, and put the groceries away. I thought I was being reasonable. Well, 30 minutes later she's still moaning and groaning about it, had put the dogs outside and then proceeded to call my brother at work...what's he gonna do?
The time it took her to clean it up - and decide to throw the rug away - was about a good hour.
I got the kids ready for bed, read stories to them, fed the little one a bottle and they were put to bed.
This morning I go into the kitchen and asked, 'how are you' and she barely spoke to me. I felt like I did something wrong. What I wanted to say was: Sorry but I can't clean the mess up and watch the kids just so she could get the groceries in and relax on the sofa with her ipad.
I say "can't" .. literally I could have but I thought getting the kids out of the way, so she could do what needed to be done, was help enough - besides I had them all day and then some. I had the little one Bjorned for a good chunk of the day so my back was on fire.
Well she decides, this morning, to wake up my brother (he worked his 10 hr shift) and yell at him. I just stayed in my room til it blew over. Later, she had him moving things around, and steaming the floors, etc.
So by my not offering to help her clean the mess up, she's been giving me the cold shoulder. Technically I don't much care, but to a point I DO care because I have to live here, lol.
But should I have helped her clean it up?
She'll get over it, but it's been bugging me. I don't want to be rude. But then again, the way she is THAT'S rude....
*anxiety flare ups today* Yay, Social Anxiety....where a molehill can be made into a mountain...ugh.
Well shortly after they left, I took my niece to my room so I could just have a bit of quiet time, and so she could start to relax for bedtime. About 3 hours later, SIL came home and I heard her huffing and puffing about something. I went to see what was going on. The dog had pooed and threw up on the rug then my nephew accidentally stepped in it and of course went all over. It was a stinky mess.
I took both kids upstairs (out of the way) so she could clean it up, and put the groceries away. I thought I was being reasonable. Well, 30 minutes later she's still moaning and groaning about it, had put the dogs outside and then proceeded to call my brother at work...what's he gonna do?
The time it took her to clean it up - and decide to throw the rug away - was about a good hour.
I got the kids ready for bed, read stories to them, fed the little one a bottle and they were put to bed.
This morning I go into the kitchen and asked, 'how are you' and she barely spoke to me. I felt like I did something wrong. What I wanted to say was: Sorry but I can't clean the mess up and watch the kids just so she could get the groceries in and relax on the sofa with her ipad.
I say "can't" .. literally I could have but I thought getting the kids out of the way, so she could do what needed to be done, was help enough - besides I had them all day and then some. I had the little one Bjorned for a good chunk of the day so my back was on fire.
Well she decides, this morning, to wake up my brother (he worked his 10 hr shift) and yell at him. I just stayed in my room til it blew over. Later, she had him moving things around, and steaming the floors, etc.
So by my not offering to help her clean the mess up, she's been giving me the cold shoulder. Technically I don't much care, but to a point I DO care because I have to live here, lol.
But should I have helped her clean it up?
She'll get over it, but it's been bugging me. I don't want to be rude. But then again, the way she is THAT'S rude....
*anxiety flare ups today* Yay, Social Anxiety....where a molehill can be made into a mountain...ugh.
