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SickJoke
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Nice. What part are you nervous about exactly? If its fear of lack of skill, I would study up on some porn. If you're afraid you won't last long, jack off beforehand. If it's just nerves and excitement, I would do a really intense workout, then shower and relax for a bit before you meet up with her. Have fun
Well firstly, to me thats a pretty big achievement, how did you get that chance?
And if she wants to do it, she must be prepared to do it however nervous you are. Im sure when your'e actualy in the situation it will flow and the fact that yor nervous won't ruin it.
However its never happened to me so i am just assuming that, but i do believe it.
And if she wants to do it, she must be prepared to do it however nervous you are. Im sure when your'e actualy in the situation it will flow and the fact that yor nervous won't ruin it.
However its never happened to me so i am just assuming that, but i do believe it.
j_brown2
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Once she's gonna touch you all your fears will be gone and you will be present in the moment- well that's what Iam trying to convince myself of happening when Iam nervous about it... there are some things in life that can make me forget my fears and be lost in the moment... swimming, racing and sex
Edit: forgot to mention socializing let's me be free of my fears too... now isn't that a big paradox to social anxiety, if you read some of my posts you will find out why, I know behind social anxiety is a bigger picture, the fear is not to be taken at face value
To understand better what Iam trying to say once every now and then I for some reason click with someone and feel like we connected and it's like my whole view of the world just changed and I relax, like Iam not fearing tomorrow anymore, like the world is not going to end soon... I feel safe again
Iam sure some people can relate to this and experienced something similar... after a long period of no socializing and constant anxiety, they socialize with someone then and if they feel they connected they feel so different like they are safe again, no need to be in fear anymore... but yea usually the next day your all negative and in fear again and lose contact with the one you liked to socialize. Coz your mind is so worked up and in fear of being alone that you act towards this fear and sure enough your all alone again
Social anxiety is an excuse for why your being alone, are not being liked, accepted or whatever, thats one reason why you can't let go of this anxiety... Show your mind you can be accepted, you won't end up alone and your anxiety in social situations will drop - that's what CBT does, it shows your mind
That's why meds can work, they take the irrational anxiety away so you socialize like your supposed to, that's why EFT works coz it erases memories where I felt lonely in social situations
You can learn alone at home to talk like the most likable guy in the world, sure your believe about yourself might change a bit... but once you go and socialize you will still be anxious... Irrational anxiety is like depression you have to do the opposite... being alone -- socializing
The truth people , that's what you need to do to overcome SA... show your mind
Edit: forgot to mention socializing let's me be free of my fears too... now isn't that a big paradox to social anxiety, if you read some of my posts you will find out why, I know behind social anxiety is a bigger picture, the fear is not to be taken at face value
To understand better what Iam trying to say once every now and then I for some reason click with someone and feel like we connected and it's like my whole view of the world just changed and I relax, like Iam not fearing tomorrow anymore, like the world is not going to end soon... I feel safe again
Iam sure some people can relate to this and experienced something similar... after a long period of no socializing and constant anxiety, they socialize with someone then and if they feel they connected they feel so different like they are safe again, no need to be in fear anymore... but yea usually the next day your all negative and in fear again and lose contact with the one you liked to socialize. Coz your mind is so worked up and in fear of being alone that you act towards this fear and sure enough your all alone again
Social anxiety is an excuse for why your being alone, are not being liked, accepted or whatever, thats one reason why you can't let go of this anxiety... Show your mind you can be accepted, you won't end up alone and your anxiety in social situations will drop - that's what CBT does, it shows your mind
That's why meds can work, they take the irrational anxiety away so you socialize like your supposed to, that's why EFT works coz it erases memories where I felt lonely in social situations
You can learn alone at home to talk like the most likable guy in the world, sure your believe about yourself might change a bit... but once you go and socialize you will still be anxious... Irrational anxiety is like depression you have to do the opposite... being alone -- socializing
The truth people , that's what you need to do to overcome SA... show your mind
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RND_CHR
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I dunno, I'd say about once a semester a girl tries to get with me. Not sure why they do. Its always the girls I don't try to get. Not that I don't like them anways. I always get so nervious that I dont even bother trying. The first time i tried I couldnt get an erection, i guess because I was so nervious and ever since then i've never tried to go through with it. I guess my biggest fear is not being able to get it up or not getting arrounsed. It's hard because I think I might like guys I really dont know. No matter who I'm with i have so much trouble trying to get it up. I guess it's almost like the anxiety I get before taking a test or something. ALl the blood rushes to my stomach and not my dick so i cant get hard.
Anubis
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NormanBates
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I think it'll depend on the personality.
If she makes you feel comfortable around her then you have nothing to worry about.
But if she already makes you feel super anxious, then it may be the same way in the bedroom.
If she makes you feel comfortable around her then you have nothing to worry about.
But if she already makes you feel super anxious, then it may be the same way in the bedroom.