Niteowl
Well-known member
How do you do this? This is the problem that I have, and I know that many, many others here do too. I was reading through the 'Let's meet each other' thread and for 'Qualities' people had said things like good-looking, smart, intelligent, creative (and house-broken o.o) ... I admire this greatly, but how do you do that? I'm positive enough about beating social anxiety but that's one thing that I find difficult. It's not so much that I don't appreciate what I have, I just can't say it. I know I'm not the only one. Why is it that we can't?
I think that absolutely everyone has great qualities ... unfailingly kind is one for everybody here. How many of you can see that though?
The people here that are able to write nice things about themselves, how do you do that? Do you have to think hard about saying those things or is it almost like a self-confidence thing? Do you hesitate as you submit the post? People might, for instance, say that I have nice eyes, and while I admit that I do kinda like them, there's absolutely no way that I could tell people that I have nice eyes. It's like while I like them, it doesn't mean they surpass some universal standard to be 'nice'.
Any comments would be much appreciated. This isn't a thread for me to complain that I have no good qualities because I want other people to give me compliments, I just want to know how you do it, how you are able to think and say that you're smart, or creative. I always see these qualities in others, but none in myself. I believe that if I, and others, were able to do just this one little thing for ourselves, then that would be a superb start to eventually beating social anxiety.
Thank you. All thoughts appreciated. : )
Self-appraisal: how do you do it?
I think that absolutely everyone has great qualities ... unfailingly kind is one for everybody here. How many of you can see that though?
The people here that are able to write nice things about themselves, how do you do that? Do you have to think hard about saying those things or is it almost like a self-confidence thing? Do you hesitate as you submit the post? People might, for instance, say that I have nice eyes, and while I admit that I do kinda like them, there's absolutely no way that I could tell people that I have nice eyes. It's like while I like them, it doesn't mean they surpass some universal standard to be 'nice'.
Any comments would be much appreciated. This isn't a thread for me to complain that I have no good qualities because I want other people to give me compliments, I just want to know how you do it, how you are able to think and say that you're smart, or creative. I always see these qualities in others, but none in myself. I believe that if I, and others, were able to do just this one little thing for ourselves, then that would be a superb start to eventually beating social anxiety.
Thank you. All thoughts appreciated. : )
Self-appraisal: how do you do it?