Saying Hello and Goodbye.

Zarrix

Zarrix

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Quite often, I can't do this at all. I rarely say hello to people I know when walking along the street, unless they say hello first. Even then, it is a very soft 'hello'. Same with goodbyes. I hate the thought of saying goodbye after I finished work or at any social gathering (I very rarely put myself into that anyway). People must think I am so snobbish rude and uncaring.
 
Generical

Generical

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Yeah i have trouble saying it too if they don't do it first, what pretty much happens is i'll be nervous to say anything so don't and then think it'll be too late or stupid to say 'oh i didn't see you come in, hello' etc. when i obviously saw them come in.

I'm not as bad with byes but when it's something bigger (like their last day at work) i'll probs just avoid them even though i would really want to say good luck and stuff.
 
piper23

piper23

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Me too! I feel like if they are not saying hello that means they don't want to be bothered with talking to me. So I don't say anything. If we happen to make eye contact I will smile a lil or nod, to be polite, but that's as far as it goes. If they seem happy to see me I will say hi.

It's also hard for me to say bye as I don't want to seem rude if they are still wanting to talk; plus if they DO want to talk, I want them to stay around! But then I don't want to wear out my welcome, so to speak. Good grief, over-analytical, am I?
 
shyguy82

shyguy82

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i am the same way. You guys have described it perfectly.....its like at a large family gathering I will even be scared to say goodbye and just leave and say bye to a few people.......Its funny sometimes I thought I was the only one that felt this way. These forums are a real eye opener and it feels good to know Im not AS weird as I thought I was lol;) or at least im not quite as alone anyway haha.
 
hulkamaniak

hulkamaniak

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Well whenever i get to work in the morning, im so nervous that they will think im rude for not saying hello that i say it nervously, generally i like it when i get to work and social people are feeling down or annoyed that day, because then i dont feel as bad for not speaking
 
Leki

Leki

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I hate saying goodbye when i'm with a group of people, i just want to slip away without being noticed. I don't want to draw attention to myself. I'm never the first person to say hello i always wait for the person to say it first.
 
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shynobody

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same. i dont see the point if you have to say it every day. especially if thats all that is said. if there is a meaningful convo that follows each time it would seem appropriate, but that rarely happens. goodbye on the other hand is very easy for me to say...too bad its not forever lol. :twisted:
 
sketchy24

sketchy24

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Same way... If they don't say it first, then I feel well they don't really care and I don't wanna bother them. I hate walking into work... People dog on me all the time for not saying hello. Then I blush, give a ridiculous smile and walk away knowing they must think I'm an idiot. Some people I can manage a weak hello to but usually its just a head nod if anything. I'm not too bad with goodbyes either though unless its a large group as well. Then I just like to slip out.
 
Zarrix

Zarrix

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I dread my last day of work. All the goodbyes and forced conversations! Ill probably go abruptly, like ring up and quit without notice.
 
Zarrix

Zarrix

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^^^

Absolutely, but this disorder is characterised with an obsession about what others will think of you.
 
Zarrix

Zarrix

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sabbath92002 said:
Sometimes I even feel nervous saying bye in a chat room hehe. :p
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So do I!!! It usually turns out alright once I do, but initially I think that they will think negatively of me for going in the middle of a convo. Sometimes you genuinely have to go, but other times you just want to get out, as mean as that sounds.
 
Emma

Emma

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I usually try to sneak in and out at work, so I don't have to say hello or goodbye, because if I have to , it comes out as a squeak :oops:
sounds like mmmmelllmmmmo :p
 
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LaLaLa

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Emma said:
I usually try to sneak in and out at work, so I don't have to say hello or goodbye, because if I have to , it comes out as a squeak :oops:
sounds like mmmmelllmmmmo :p
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That's what I managed to do last Friday at college before we broke up for the Easter Holidays. While everybody was busy I sneaked out. I hated it when they say 'have a good weekend/holiday' because I never feel like saying it back and then it makes me feel bad, yet I still can't say it. :? I can't stand my voice either, it feels and sounds weird.

The other day, I had a family gathering, and as expected, I was awfully quiet...couldn't even say bye at the end, I don't know why, I wasn't as bad in the last few gatherings and was able to talk to some of the cousins but recently I can't even have a simple small conversation with them, just when I had thought I could bond with one of them, I couldn't speak to that cousin at all the last time I saw her, and I guess she figured that I didn't really wanna speak so she left me alone. :cry: But there was this one other friendly cousin who tried to get me to join in with them doing stuff but I was just so awkward. 'You shouldve came with us to build a snowman! ' I kind of just nervously smiled and said that I was too tired, then she touched my hand with her hand to show me how cold it was outside, I just flinched a little and then walked back into the living room. 8O I felt like I was too rude. She was being so nice to me that day. At the end she said bye but I wasn't sure whether it was for me or not so I didn't reply and just smiled... I don't know, what is up wth me :roll:
 
Ergo_proxy

Ergo_proxy

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You doesn't need say hello all of people, only some people, and the people with you can say hello replie you.

It's easy, get strongly. :wink:
 
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