do i only know your situation so well...lol,
i know exactly 100% how u lot feel, ive been doin cognitive behaveral theropy for about 3 months, alot of it has helped, but alot of it ive had to do myslef, im 16 nearly 17. like most school leavers i was really nervous about stating my fist job, so much so that i didnt talk to anyone for days, and then before i knew it months. i just avoided all things which i knew would mean conversation starting. my biggest fear? the staff room. i was so scared in there that if kelly(a gal i spoke to abit) was on the other end of the staff room, and there was people inbetween i wouldnt talk to her coz it would go through the other people first, eventually, even tho i would shake when i was in their, i would find any excuse to face it ie making cups of tea for clients (hairdressers) before i knew it i was semi ok witht e whole thing. i used to really get my self down about trying to be the one with the conversation and going no where with, if i was on break with someone for 15 minutes, my mission would be to talk for the whole 15 minutes, now i think jesus nicola what r u like! but at the time it was so stressfull! till one day i done an expiremnt, i thought ok im not gonna say anything, then see if she says anything, to my suprise she didnt say a word, which goes to show you that it the quality of what you say, not the quantity, if you dont wanna talk,dont. if you dont wanna talk to the person u know in the shop, just say 'u alright' smile, and act like your just doing what your doing. i know its hard becasue we social phobiacs tend to be mind readers an asume what people think about us, and thin they'll judge us for things we might do, but the truth is they're actualy thinking about shit, like we do. but if you try and think about anything apart from what ur saying, and what the other person thinks about what your saying, you'll find you'll do a better job becasue its comming out natrallly, and you no so stressed. also try some affirmations. twice a day. find posatives about your self and the owrld around you for example 'im a kind person, and other people are kind' try doinf quite a few of em, they will eventualy slip into your subconcious, and eventualy your concious mind will think them too. when you feel negatives comming up, just say no becuase im *insert you personal posatives here* so this negative is no use anymore, becasue it not true!.
man do i ramble, anyways hope this helped
nicola x