Nooms
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Hai there,
I was wondering how other's experiences have been living with someone who's a complete stranger to you. I currently share a flat with a classmate (did not know him before class started), one of those types who's seriously social, loves partying, hangs out with people 24/7, (also never cleans x)).
My own experience here is that I feel like this flat does not belong to me, and that I'm walking on eggshells (trying to avoid the flatmate at all costs). I always make sure I clean up after myself, basically not leaving a trace that I actually live here, just locking myself up in my room. I also do not dare ask him to clean up after himself every once in a while. Any other issue that's related to rent and whatever I also don't dare ask. The guy actually gave me a major panic attack as well when he did not pay his rent on time (we share the same bill) and we got a warning letter from the counsellor that if we wouldn't pay right away (even though I freaking paid on time ._.) they would get a lawyer and we'd have to go to court etc etc...
Lately, I have just been freaking out about what the flatmate thinks about me, seeing as I barely leave the house (and when I do I simply go out on my own). And then when I do tell myself that it does not matter what someone else thinks of me, I end up thinking I'm too lonely even for my own good and then I just go crazy. Ugh, I'm not even sure what I'm trying to say here, but it sure feels good to share my craziness/anxiety/panicrambling/blabla
Does anyone simply have bad experiences with room or flatmates or something? Any tips on how to stop yourself from freaking out and panicking so much?
Yeah.. could just use some words of encouragement here I think
I was wondering how other's experiences have been living with someone who's a complete stranger to you. I currently share a flat with a classmate (did not know him before class started), one of those types who's seriously social, loves partying, hangs out with people 24/7, (also never cleans x)).
My own experience here is that I feel like this flat does not belong to me, and that I'm walking on eggshells (trying to avoid the flatmate at all costs). I always make sure I clean up after myself, basically not leaving a trace that I actually live here, just locking myself up in my room. I also do not dare ask him to clean up after himself every once in a while. Any other issue that's related to rent and whatever I also don't dare ask. The guy actually gave me a major panic attack as well when he did not pay his rent on time (we share the same bill) and we got a warning letter from the counsellor that if we wouldn't pay right away (even though I freaking paid on time ._.) they would get a lawyer and we'd have to go to court etc etc...
Lately, I have just been freaking out about what the flatmate thinks about me, seeing as I barely leave the house (and when I do I simply go out on my own). And then when I do tell myself that it does not matter what someone else thinks of me, I end up thinking I'm too lonely even for my own good and then I just go crazy. Ugh, I'm not even sure what I'm trying to say here, but it sure feels good to share my craziness/anxiety/panicrambling/blabla
Does anyone simply have bad experiences with room or flatmates or something? Any tips on how to stop yourself from freaking out and panicking so much?
Yeah.. could just use some words of encouragement here I think