Really struggling today.

[selon]

Screw Facebook! So pointless. The most pathetic way to waste ones time in my opinion.

True.. but it's addictive, not that easy to give up. :sad:

 

[WishingICould]

True.. but it's addictive, not that easy to give up. :sad:

I think having OCD makes it harder, in a weird way. I get this panicky feeling that i'm missing out on important news or i think "what if something bad has happened to so and so and it's on Facebook?". It's really, really hard but i'm determined to not go on there.

 

[ImNotMyIllness]

True.. but it's addictive, not that easy to give up. :sad:

I know....I had a number of false starts! lol

 

[selon]

So, i broke my "i'm not using Facebook" resolution. I had a quick look on my newsfeed, not sure why, and i saw that a friend on there had gotten married. There's pictures on there and i just keep thinking that he's going to be marrying her soon and i'm never going to find anyone. I've logged off and i'm determined not to go back on there for a long time. Why do i do this to myself? :kickingmyself:

It might not be that helpful but you're a lot better off than his fiancee.. you already found out what an a*hole he is, she's only gonna find out when she's legally bound to (plus, likely, dependent on) him.

But it does suck a lot... don't really have an advice for how to get him out of your head 'cause I'm still struggling to get my **** out of my head. But something's going to happen eventually. If other people can find happiness so can we!! (I hope.. haha)

One thing about fb though: delete the friends you have in common from your friends list. If you're going to break your anti-facebook resolution again (you're only human..) you won't be able to 'stalk' him through your common friends. I know that I wouldn't be able to resist looking at his wedding pictures and I also know that it would kill me to see them. You can't get rid of the gun (facebook), but you can at least throw the ammunition away.

 

[ImNotMyIllness]

I think having OCD makes it harder, in a weird way. I get this panicky feeling that i'm missing out on important news or i think "what if something bad has happened to so and so and it's on Facebook?". It's really, really hard but i'm determined to not go on there.

My OCD and Facebook were a bad mix! I would check status updates a million times a day....click, click, click. Then I would start clicking on people's profiles even if I didn't really care about them. I get really compulsive. I'll log out and within two minutes, log back in.

Admittedly, I've been exhibiting OCD like behavior on this site too. But, at least I'm learning something and bettering myself.

 

[WishingICould]

It might not be that helpful but you're a lot better off than his fiancee.. you already found out what an a*hole he is, she's only gonna find out when she's legally bound to (plus, likely, dependent on) him.

But it does suck a lot... don't really have an advice for how to get him out of your head 'cause I'm still struggling to get my **** out of my head. But something's going to happen eventually. If other people can find happiness so can we!! (I hope.. haha)

One thing about fb though: delete the friends you have in common from your friends list. If you're going to break your anti-facebook resolution again (you're only human..) you won't be able to 'stalk' him through your common friends. I know that I wouldn't be able to resist looking at his wedding pictures and I also know that it would kill me to see them. You can't get rid of the gun (facebook), but you can at least throw the ammunition away.

Yeah, that's true. I'd have to remove about half my friends list though. Eurgh... I don't even know why i care.

 

[selon]

I don't even know why i care.

Maybe because it just seems so unfair! :sad:

 

[WishingICould]

Maybe because it just seems so unfair! :sad:

Yep. I don't understand how you could treat someone like that and not care but i guess i'll never know. I'm just tired of being alone and seeing people like him have friends and not care what an a-hole he is.

 

[PGT]

I don't know if you noticed, but this guy would not have made you happy at all
I know it's very frustrating to sleep with someone and then realize they are no good, but at least you are not the one marrying him It's not you who's not good enough for him, it's him who's not good enough for you. And I know I don't know you, but seriously, it's just obvious.

I think this is spot on.
I think you have just been unlucky and picked the wrong guy. There are a few guys like him but most of us are nice. Hope you find one of us nice guys one day. I am sure you will and you can look back and laugh about this jerk. Try not to waste any more time thinking about it. Leave the past behind you and concentrate on the future.

 

[WishingICould]

I think this is spot on.
I think you have just been unlucky and picked the wrong guy. There are a few guys like him but most of us are nice. Hope you find one of us nice guys one day. I am sure you will and you can look back and laugh about this jerk. Try not to waste any more time thinking about it. Leave the past behind you and concentrate on the future.

I'm trying. It's just like i'm stuck or something. I'm not too bad when i'm busy at work but when i'm alone i think about it. I think i'd feel better if he got what he deserved and she found out but i doubt that will happen and i would never tell anyone.

 

[PGT]

He will get what he deserves. What goes around comes around as they say. It will get him eventually.

 

[WishingICould]

He will get what he deserves. What goes around comes around as they say. It will get him eventually.

Do you really believe that? In what way?

 

[PGT]

Yea I believe that.. Its like when a person gets promoted at work and snubs his former friends because he has new more important ones, if he ever gets demoted then he's in the **** because they will remember how badly he treated them all on the way up.
How long can he keep trying to have sex with other women before she finds out. I feel sorry for her not knowing the kind of guy she's with.

 

[WishingICould]

Yea I believe that.. Its like when a person gets promoted at work and snubs his former friends because he has new more important ones, if he ever gets demoted then he's in the **** because they will remember how badly he treated them all on the way up.
How long can he keep trying to have sex with other women before she finds out. I feel sorry for her not knowing the kind of guy she's with.

I wish i felt sorry for her. I know what sounds awful but i just don't. I just hate her. I hate her and her perfect life.

 

[FallenFeathers]

Yea I believe that..

It doesn't always happen because sadly there doesn't seem to be a universal constant force of karma at work. But I agree with PGT I sadly grew up with a lot of guys who did this sort of stuff.

Sometimes, they get "played" by the other girl or the girl finds out that he's like, realize what they had or could of had with the girl or girls they messed about.

They also seem to end up with people as toxic as them in the very end.

 

[ImNotMyIllness]

I wish i felt sorry for her. I know what sounds awful but i just don't. I just hate her. I hate her and her perfect life.

Try your best to let go of those feelings. She's innocent and another victim. No one deserves a jerk like him.

"Her perfect life"? You've got to be kidding! Her life is a charade, a lie. She's marrying a cheat! Everything she believes and believes that she's experiencing is a lie. What could be more horrible?!

 

[WishingICould]

Try your best to let go of those feelings. She's innocent and another victim. No one deserves a jerk like him.

"Her perfect life"? You've got to be kidding! Her life is a charade, a lie. She's marrying a cheat! Everything she believes and believes that she's experiencing is a lie. What could be more horrible?!

Yes, but he still chose her. She's still got friends, money and her perfect life. He cares enough to marry her. She's happy. I'll never know what that's like.

 

[WishingICould]

Sorry for ranting. I just feel like crap. Lately i've been feeling like it would be better if i wasn't here anymore. I'm tired of feeling this pain.