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I'm 37 and in my prime in terms of looks (though I was never handsome anyway - I just age slower than other men and look about 28-30) I can't meet non-obese women IRL or through online dating (women ignore my 1st attempt contact messages on the internet). I've tried soft approach in the city centre social hangouts and I've gotten rejected. I dress nice (real leather jacket, nice loafers, clean clothes) but it has no impression at all.
In pubs I literally have a 0.00% conversion rate. Women don't even make eye contact. Its like I'm a ghost. I have tried hobby groups but all the women I like or like the look of are taken. I don't have high standards in looks, just not attracted to fat/obese.
And online dating where many lucky men are swimming with women, I get on average 1 non-fat woman every 4 months add me to her "would like to meet" list. When I message that women she ignores me completely. It is frustrating. I am not rude, boring, pushy or display sexual overtures in the message at all.
Absolutely nothing on Tinder and in fact most of these girls on such websites have huge self-entltlement and holier-than-thou egosim, they are a huge turn off anyway. Don't even know why I did that.
My slightly older, taller, better looking brother (6ft2) has always had girls approach him all his life. In fact he is married with 2 kids to a woman he met 6 years ago via online, and she messaged him first. She is not fat and has long dark hair.
It's a tough world out there if you're of a mediocre height (5ft9) and a average to weird looking guy. It seems average looks and average height to women means ugly. :sad:
Not looking for sympathy or a pity patter parade. Just need to vent.
Cliffs.
- Can't meet girls anywhere
- Don't know what to do
- Pretty obvious evidence its because of my looks
- Can't "lower standards" and go after fat women even though I wouldn't say that means I have high standards. I just can't get aroused by them.
- Thinking of looking abroad, maybe for asian women????
In pubs I literally have a 0.00% conversion rate. Women don't even make eye contact. Its like I'm a ghost. I have tried hobby groups but all the women I like or like the look of are taken. I don't have high standards in looks, just not attracted to fat/obese.
And online dating where many lucky men are swimming with women, I get on average 1 non-fat woman every 4 months add me to her "would like to meet" list. When I message that women she ignores me completely. It is frustrating. I am not rude, boring, pushy or display sexual overtures in the message at all.
Absolutely nothing on Tinder and in fact most of these girls on such websites have huge self-entltlement and holier-than-thou egosim, they are a huge turn off anyway. Don't even know why I did that.
My slightly older, taller, better looking brother (6ft2) has always had girls approach him all his life. In fact he is married with 2 kids to a woman he met 6 years ago via online, and she messaged him first. She is not fat and has long dark hair.
It's a tough world out there if you're of a mediocre height (5ft9) and a average to weird looking guy. It seems average looks and average height to women means ugly. :sad:
Not looking for sympathy or a pity patter parade. Just need to vent.
Cliffs.
- Can't meet girls anywhere
- Don't know what to do
- Pretty obvious evidence its because of my looks
- Can't "lower standards" and go after fat women even though I wouldn't say that means I have high standards. I just can't get aroused by them.
- Thinking of looking abroad, maybe for asian women????
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