HeadFace
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I know it seem like an average problem for any SocialPhobic, or anyone with SA. But really, I think I take it to a whole new level. And it bugs the **** out of me. It doesn't matter how close I am with the people. I'm extremely quiet if there's more than 1 person. If I'm really really close with both people, and am used to be with the 2 of them at once, then maybe I won't be as shy. But if not, I'm just completely quiet. Like conversations are going on around me; instead of with me and the rest of the group. It's like everyone else is talking except me. They all expect me to talk... I know that... But it's like I can't help it. Like what I say would just, not matter to the rest. And I'd look like an idiot, or a moron. Or even if I try to be funny, just get looked at as a moron.
It's annoying, really. Even if I'm with my girlfriend, and more people I'm just completely quiet.
The only exceptions I can really really think about, is if it was during IM, when I'm not actually facing the people. And with family, and family friends that I've known for a long, long time.
So, do you guys have the same problem as me? It's hard enough to talk to people in general... But I can get over that (eventually :\ ). It's just this quietness, when I'm in groups. Like it feels like my mind won't let me talk.. As if I'll get punished if I do. Or as if I'm not able to.
Oh, and if you know what I can do to make this better... Please... I beat myself up over this almost every day. It's like, in order to move on, I need to conquer this fear.
Also just incase you got confused; It's somewhat easy for me to talk one on one (maybe not to strangers, and old friends). As in I'll try my hardest to not let the conversation die, to keep it from being awkward if it's me and ONE other person.
It's annoying, really. Even if I'm with my girlfriend, and more people I'm just completely quiet.
The only exceptions I can really really think about, is if it was during IM, when I'm not actually facing the people. And with family, and family friends that I've known for a long, long time.
So, do you guys have the same problem as me? It's hard enough to talk to people in general... But I can get over that (eventually :\ ). It's just this quietness, when I'm in groups. Like it feels like my mind won't let me talk.. As if I'll get punished if I do. Or as if I'm not able to.
Oh, and if you know what I can do to make this better... Please... I beat myself up over this almost every day. It's like, in order to move on, I need to conquer this fear.
Also just incase you got confused; It's somewhat easy for me to talk one on one (maybe not to strangers, and old friends). As in I'll try my hardest to not let the conversation die, to keep it from being awkward if it's me and ONE other person.
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