Quiet and **** at conversation!

Hey there SPW!!Well I'm a 16 year old from India.I'm either shy or shit at conversation or a mix of both.But I'm not sure because things like presentations/writing an answer on the board or joining a club don't seem intimidating to me!I'm serious!I am participating in a skit in my school(something a shy person would fear....RIGHT?).But when it comes to talking to people.....well at school I don't say a word unless I HAVE TO ASK(like schoolwork or something).I NEVER(NEVER DOES MEAN 0 TIMES) INITIATE CONVERSATIONS!Sometimes if a group is taking about something interesting,then I will(rarely)add my 2(more like 0.5 in my case) cents.Rest of the time,I just sit quietly in class....saying nothing.

The reason this is bothering me so much is because I am very intelligent,have loads of free time(Studying for 2 hrs a day gets me A+),am quite good looking(no brag but girls do eyephuck me and some have out of the blue initiated conversation but I just reply with short answers ),and don't have money problems YET I have trouble initiating conversation with everyone!!!I joined a new school a month ago and although I have talked to most of the students.....I have zero numbers.ZERO!I have no one I can just call up and say"yo man wanna go see <insert awesome film>?"(saying that in real life is kind of a life goal -_- ).I had a few "friends" and tons of acquaintances in my previous school,but even though I was "friends" with them for 10 years....I did not feel 100 percent comfortable!

Now I want to change DESPERATELY!Every second of the day,I think"I have to change!I won't be shy!" but I just can't seem to do it!!!Would joining clubs help brahs?Like a guitar club or a sports club?I am seriously freaking out because I am shy!I am thinking about how quiet I am all the time.....even while watching porn......yeaaaahhhhh

Thanks!
 

MikeyC

Well-known member
Judging from the mood of your post, you do have a very bubbly personality but you're afraid to show it.

You desperately want to change? Well, the only way is to take a risk. You say you don't put your views/opinions in conversations that interest you, so next time something like that happens, try to say some more of what you think. If the people you're talking to aren't idiots, they'll let you speak and consider your views.

You appear to have the foundations set, but now it's just giving your mind the go-ahead to talk. Once you get there, I foresee you'll make friends quite easily, and a girlfriend if you're as attractive as you say. :thumbup:
 

sahxox

Well-known member
Sounds like how I used to be... it's frustrating as shit. I used this enthusiasm for life to tackle anxiety and went quite well. However, circumstances changed and I've had to find new ways to improve... (still searching) -_-
Set goals would be my advice... sounds like you are successful at most things, but the one thing you really want is this social ability.
 
thanks for the replies!But isn't there any way to make "taking the risk" a bit less risky?Like I know that School is probably the easiest(or is it?) place to make homies....but my parents say that joining clubs is the best way to break out of my shell....I will join a sports club sometime this month but how will it be any different than school,is what I wonder.
 

MikeyC

Well-known member
School is different because there'd be a lot of people that don't want to be there. A club is full of willing people, so attitudes there will be far more positive. :)
 
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