Okay, guys: why on earth do you think these people would even
care?
I tried to tell a friend of mine that I had SA and well there wasn't even space, she had so many little kids or relatives around.. so I was pushed into interaction and well, little kids and dogs still like me haha.. so it doesn't look like I might have SA at all... I mostly have it in certain circumstances, but to an outsider it may be difficult to tell, you know...
Think about which circumstances you might have it in, and would it even affect that person and how?
I think that most people have certain expectations of who to date or marry: that the person is a good person, faithful/loyal, with compatible ideas of life together etc.
Some people actually
prefer shy people!
I found good advice in a very old woman's magazine: girl, you need to learn to trust men! Not all men.
(Same goes for men and women.) First, they will be just 'acquaintance', then, maybe friends or something more.. It's actually really helpful to look at it like that...
Trust must be earnt though, some people can't be trusted, some can. People are very different in regard to that or to what/who they like in life etc. As you get to know them you can see how much they can be trusted..
If you interact in RL and get to know each other in situations, they may see you're 'a little shy' or more than that anyway.. And maybe they won't mind, cause they don't want a loud outgoing type of person anyway... (?) In some cultures, being shy and reserved is seen as very 'polite' and culturally appropriate (!)
So I guess it's just important to deal with depression/negative or unconstructive or unhelpful thoughts, 'awfulizing' etc. (So that you don't lash out at them for being different etc. and that you have a support circle so you don't rely just on them...) a temper can be worked on..
I think it's much more important how your skills in the kitchen are, and if you can make money... And if the other person makes enough money, maybe not even that. Some rich people can be 'highly dysfunctional' too, it's just important to see if they wouldn't bother you too much if you had to live with them!
For example, if the other person goes out a lot, would it bother you to stay home alone? Would you be jealous of their friends or hobbies or time out with other people? Or would you click with their friends and relatives well? And maybe approve/join some activities and have your own hobbies and activities too? What do they do when they 'go out'? Are you okay with it...?
You can find out these things before 'going serious', sometimes.. or while getting to know each other.. Most certainly you can find out these things before moving in together or such..
For me, depression and mood swings and 'bad temper' or kitchen phobia or other 'shortcomings' (lack of mad culinary skills or gardening or moneymaking prowess) would be the more difficult parts to talk about.. (Though someone I know doesn't cook, her hubby does. Many people don't garden or don't work either. Though it's kinda expected in some circles around here.) If you work on these things and on your life and learn to apologize it's actually probably better from people who have that and don't acknowledge it.. Ahh, I don't know.. It's easier to cheer others than oneself yup..
I thought ADD would be difficult to talk about, someone just said, 'What's that?' And then, 'Oh, apparently I may have it too..' (hm!) So, hm?
