Procastination and initiative

[X-Rated]

Every time i have to get something done, whether it`s my homework , work out or something similar( right now i have to learn for my driving license and also to improve my english) I keep getting distracted by things, mostly insignificant compared to my chores and because of this i waste a lot of my time and when I finally decide to get to work I`m not as productive as I would have been under normal circumstances. It's like i have an urge to do something else, anything, and I can't resist it. And because of that, I feel a sense of guilt that i haven`t started my chores earlier and , as a result I keep distracting myself in order no to to feel the guilt( pretty confusing and fcked up I know). Thus, I waste a lot of time and am tensioned for the most part of the day.
I know that this is caused by sloth combined w/t my SA( having very few friends leads to being a little depressed and w/t no aspirations) and w/t a lack of self-discipline and I also feel that if I don't act upon it soon it will have bad effets on my life, both personally and professionally. So, what made u get over it? Following a strict schedule? Brief meditation prior doing the chores? Also, for those who have managed to improve their social phobia , did it have any effects on your motivations and discipline??
Another similar problem is that i have no initiative, which is very imp for succeeding in life at everything, because of my SA( im 90% sure abt that) which has lead to having very little experience so far in everything. It`s like im scared of changes in my life , of something new and I always had to be forced by my parents( and I am grateful for that) to do anything ranging from attending swimming classes to taking driving lessons. I can't live like that. Right now i will be going into the senior year of HS and have to look from now for which universities to apply to, which city/country etc. I dont feel ready for that and because of this i keep putting off looking for universities. Lots of paperwork to be filled in,the start of the life when i`ll be responsible for everything and have to take care of everything, the separation from my friends(the few i have) of family, the fear of not making new friednds while at uni. All of these things scare me when i think about it, and again i know that this will negatively affect my life i smth is not done. Because of this ( fear of smth new) i have not joined the gym( even thought i wanted to), not started running(which i feel its imp) and many others thing. CHOOSING THE UNIVERSITY DOESNT HAVE TO BE SUCH A THING.
SO, has anyone faced similar problems and if so, how did they manage to get rid of them??

Ps i know that this is a long post but i felt that i needed to get it out of my system. And I know that these problems are SA related

 

[MaliceInWickedland]

I have the same problem. A lot of people do actually, not just people with social anxiety. It's really weird but I feel like I perform better when under pressure at the last minute. I know that's not a good thing since the work quality won't be as good as it could have been but that's just me. Unfortunately I haven't been able to get rid of this habit so I can't really give you any advice on that. I'm pretty sure that the only solution to that would be to focus on your work and take things slowly by working on a certain thing bit by bit as not to overwhelm yourself. But even that is difficult to do, especially when you get so easily distracted.

As for initiative, I have problems with that too. I hate trying new things and being in new situations. I'm really picky and indecisive when it comes to trying new things and being in foreign situations like going to a new school or visiting another country which makes it difficult to cope with for a while and then I end up changing my mind about doing anything related to it only to end up putting it off until I give up on it completely. I actually graduated from high school last month and am still unsure as to which college I'm going to attend. I'm thinking about doing it online since I have SA and want to major in writing so it's not like I have to necessarily go to public school for that. But anyway, I haven't really managed to rid of this habit either.

It's only natural to be a bit weary at the thought of taking the first step on a new venture or idea. The only advice I can think to give you on this problem is to just do it regardless of your worries and get it over with. The longer you hold out on something, the more apprehensive you'll feel about it once the time comes for you to actually make a move, so it's best to just get it over with and move on with all that weight off your shoulders afterwards.

 

[Inferiorpotter]

Every time i have to get something done, whether it`s my homework , work out or something similar( right now i have to learn for my driving license and also to improve my english) I keep getting distracted by things, mostly insignificant compared to my chores and because of this i waste a lot of my time and when I finally decide to get to work I`m not as productive as I would have been under normal circumstances. It's like i have an urge to do something else, anything, and I can't resist it. And because of that, I feel a sense of guilt that i haven`t started my chores earlier and , as a result I keep distracting myself in order no to to feel the guilt( pretty confusing and fcked up I know). Thus, I waste a lot of time and am tensioned for the most part of the day.
I know that this is caused by sloth combined w/t my SA( having very few friends leads to being a little depressed and w/t no aspirations) and w/t a lack of self-discipline and I also feel that if I don't act upon it soon it will have bad effets on my life, both personally and professionally. So, what made u get over it? Following a strict schedule? Brief meditation prior doing the chores? Also, for those who have managed to improve their social phobia , did it have any effects on your motivations and discipline??
Another similar problem is that i have no initiative, which is very imp for succeeding in life at everything, because of my SA( im 90% sure abt that) which has lead to having very little experience so far in everything. It`s like im scared of changes in my life , of something new and I always had to be forced by my parents( and I am grateful for that) to do anything ranging from attending swimming classes to taking driving lessons. I can't live like that. Right now i will be going into the senior year of HS and have to look from now for which universities to apply to, which city/country etc. I dont feel ready for that and because of this i keep putting off looking for universities. Lots of paperwork to be filled in,the start of the life when i`ll be responsible for everything and have to take care of everything, the separation from my friends(the few i have) of family, the fear of not making new friednds while at uni. All of these things scare me when i think about it, and again i know that this will negatively affect my life i smth is not done. Because of this ( fear of smth new) i have not joined the gym( even thought i wanted to), not started running(which i feel its imp) and many others thing. CHOOSING THE UNIVERSITY DOESNT HAVE TO BE SUCH A THING.
SO, has anyone faced similar problems and if so, how did they manage to get rid of them??

Ps i know that this is a long post but i felt that i needed to get it out of my system. And I know that these problems are SA related

They say it's due to fear of not having the outcome perfectly as you planned. It's sord of perfectionism combined with OCD. it's like if it cannot be perfect, then I would rather not do it.
I often had this when i used to work out. I used to have this mentality where I tell myself today I'm gonna get BUFF like a mother****er, lift heavy heavy **** and look good like other buff guys. If I cannot do that **** it. So my mentality slowly starts getting lazy and lazy. Eventually I don't go.

 

[coyote]

They say it's due to fear of not having the outcome perfectly as you planned. It's sord of perfectionism combined with OCD. it's like if it cannot be perfect, then I would rather not do it.
I often had this when i used to work out. I used to have this mentality where I tell myself today I'm gonna get BUFF like a mother****er, lift heavy heavy **** and look good like other buff guys. If I cannot do that **** it. So my mentality slowly starts getting lazy and lazy. Eventually I don't go.

i'm very much the same way

only without the asterisks

 

[Newtype]

For homework, rush to your working place when you get back from skool, put some loud music that you like and set up your things. By the time the song has ended, everything will all be set up nicely. Then, just relax a bit, eat, decompress. When you're ready, go do your homework. Because everything has already been set up, it will be easier for you to start. Try to accomplish as much as you can. Also, try to sleep the same amount of hours every day. I find this helps a lot.

If it's Friday night and you have a bunch of homework to do during the weekend. Unpack your things the same way, then just go enjoy your Friday evening, unless you feel like doing homework... Go to bed at like 10PM and wake up at 6AM. Waking up early after getting lots of sleep has a motivational effect on the body. You can get a lot done from 7AM to noon. And even if you don't get a lot done, it's no problem. You woke up early, so you still have plenty of time in the day to finish up. Finally, don't put yourself in a situation where you have to do a bunch of homework in the same day. That will only make you want to procrastinate even more. Organize and give yourself daily goals.