The 'compliment the person above you thread' terrifies me.
What if I join in and then the thread dies because no one knows anything about me.. or cant think of a compliment? Or it makes them feel uncomfortable that they have to interact with me?
Best to leave that one alone I think. I dont want to be responsible for its downfall.
The 'compliment the person above you thread' terrifies me.
What if I join in and then the thread dies because no one knows anything about me.. or cant think of a compliment? Or it makes them feel uncomfortable that they have to interact with me?
Best to leave that one alone I think. I dont want to be responsible for its downfall.
You're a good guy, ShyKiwi.
I know it's scary, I didn't know what to do or say at first, but you just have to say something, whatever you want, and someone else will compliment you, as I just did 🙂
The 'compliment the person above you thread' terrifies me.
What if I join in and then the thread dies because no one knows anything about me.. or cant think of a compliment? Or it makes them feel uncomfortable that they have to interact with me?
Best to leave that one alone I think. I dont want to be responsible for its downfall.
I think you're drastically overestimating your negative influence here. I can only speak for myself, of course, but when I see you post I don't go:
''Oh great. :/ Here's ShyKiwi.''
I go:
''Oh, ShyKiwi. Let's see what he has to say (about the matter).''
I'd say try it, especially since it's a scary thing to do. Break that boundary once and for all.
I think you're drastically overestimating your negative influence here. I can only speak for myself, of course, but when I see you post I don't go:
''Oh great. :/ Here's ShyKiwi.''
arggh..
that pretty much encapsulates how I think people react to me....especially the "oh great its him again.. :/"
I know I know.. its crazy. Thanks everyone .... for the reassurance 🙂 Paranoia can die for today. Stupid brain.
I lost my voice a little bit singing along to music in the car today. I love driving alone in the car 😀 (Fittingly, my favorite line to sing was "-it Feels So Good")
I hung out with an old friend yesterday, and he was telling me all these things that bothered him about people. Some of the things he said I have never even thought about.
It's like there is an endless list of things that can be wrong with a person. I don't know why people have to pick out every little detail they don't like about people. That can be added to the list, even though it makes me a hypocrite.
Idk after that I thought about all the possible things that can be wrong with me. I decided that I need to be around people that look for the positive instead of the negative. Otherwise I will never stop analyzing myself, and wondering what the person I am around thinks about me.
I hung out with an old friend yesterday, and he was telling me all these things that bothered him about people. Some of the things he said I have never even thought about.
It's like there is an endless list of things that can be wrong with a person. I don't know why people have to pick out every little detail they don't like about people. That can be added to the list, even though it makes me a hypocrite.
Idk after that I thought about all the possible things that can be wrong with me. I decided that I need to be around people that look for the positive instead of the negative. Otherwise I will never stop analyzing myself, and wondering what the person I am around thinks about me.
That's very key. I've met a group of close friends who r so positive and supportive and it's helped me out a lot. Negativity spreads easily
I hung out with an old friend yesterday, and he was telling me all these things that bothered him about people. Some of the things he said I have never even thought about.
It's like there is an endless list of things that can be wrong with a person. I don't know why people have to pick out every little detail they don't like about people. That can be added to the list, even though it makes me a hypocrite.
Idk after that I thought about all the possible things that can be wrong with me. I decided that I need to be around people that look for the positive instead of the negative. Otherwise I will never stop analyzing myself, and wondering what the person I am around thinks about me.
We'll never figure out what a person truly thinks of us until they either flat-out say it or show it in their actions, and even then there's a margin of error. The trick is to not think about it. No one in this world will ever be able to read a person's mind, so why think about what's on someone else's. You're right in that you need to find people who enjoy your company because those people's opinions are the ones that matter concerning you. People have lots of pet peeves and they're entitled to them because that's their opinion, so the best thing to do is to act the way you wish to and let everyone judge you as they may. If they hate you, then fine, if they like you, then that's fine too. No need to go out of your way to please everyone because that's impossible.
We'll never figure out what a person truly thinks of us until they either flat-out say it or show it in their actions, and even then there's a margin of error. The trick is to not think about it. No one in this world will ever be able to read a person's mind, so why think about what's on someone else's. You're right in that you need to find people who enjoy your company because those people's opinions are the ones that matter concerning you. People have lots of pet peeves and they're entitled to them because that's their opinion, so the best thing to do is to act the way you wish to and let everyone judge you as they may. If they hate you, then fine, if they like you, then that's fine too. No need to go out of your way to please everyone because that's impossible.
Yeah, I didn't try to change to please him, it's just that it makes me anxious being around people who are very judgmental. I try not to think about what they think of me, but when I am around people like that I start to think things they say are directed at me. Like how a person will refer to one person, but really they are directing there words at you. I think that every time they start to talk about someone, and it makes me extremely uncomfortable because I don't know if I am being paranoid, or if they are directing their words at me. It's so stupid because even if they were, I would not care. It's not knowing what is truly being said that bothers me. That is why I want to be around positive people. I will be able to talk to them without thinking they are insulting me.
Yeah, I didn't try to change to please him, it's just that it makes me anxious being around people who are very judgmental. I try not to think about what they think of me, but when I am around people like that I start to think things they say are directed at me. Like how a person will refer to one person, but really they are directing there words at you. I think that every time they start to talk about someone, and it makes me extremely uncomfortable because I don't know if I am being paranoid, or if they are directing their words at me. It's so stupid because even if they were, I would not care. It's not knowing what is truly being said that bothers me. That is why I want to be around positive people. I will be able to talk to them without thinking they are insulting me.
Yeah, I understand what you're talking about. The same thing happens to me sometimes. The thing I do is take what they're saying at face value; if they've got something importanto say about me, they can come to me and say it to my face. If they've got to sneak around and imply things about me, then that not only shows how important that opinion is, but it also shows the.... well, I guess the closest word I can think of at the moment is "worth" of the person to me. I (and you) don't have time to worry about the two-faced, sneaky rats out there in this world. I don't know, it's hard to put into words. This is a lesson that you have to "feel" instead of "know". Or maybe I just suck at wording:😛:.
I hate how my mother always brings me down and makes me feel like I can't do anything right. If I don't cook for myself she yells at me about how i should learn to freaking cook, yet if I cook for myself she'll yell I'm doing it all wrong. Well if thats so then let me learn and shut the fvck up mom! today after I finished heating up the lasagna she ate some and of course told me I didn't let it in the microwave enough time and that if she's leave me alone for a few weeks to take care of myself I would surely get sick in no time. I feel so goddamn frustrated.
If I don't cook for myself she yells at me about how i should learn to freaking cook, yet if I cook for myself she'll yell I'm doing it all wrong.
My mum did the exact same thing, so I'm sorry you're going through this. :🙁: Tell her that you don't need her to "baby" you all the time. That may work. 🙂
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