People you'd rather avoid but have to meet daily

[gustavofring]

Do you have them in your life?

I have some roommates I can't stand being around. I have no idea what to say to them, and I'd rather just avoid them altogether. It's not necessarily rude behavior they display, I just think there's a big difference in personalities, and they can be very obnoxious. Still, I have to see them daily. In the kitchen and all the other common places. And daily there's a lot of their friends coming over the floor which also annoys the living daylights out of me.

It's a shame, because a few people in this house have really gotten out of their way to vote for people in this house that are their kind of person (during the "pick a roommate" nights) and have established a predominant culture that is not mine. The last few people that I liked have long moved out. And so should I, better sooner then later.

Does anyone know of any techniques or approach that could help me being more comfortable with people you naturally want to avoid, as it obviously is detrimental to my living situation and mental health? Maybe I should just expose myself more to them?

I want to really overcome this avoidance behavior but I find myself locking myself up in the room each time I hear people occupying the common spaces.

 

[Bustn Justin]

Customers. Enough said.

 

[mikebird]

I had only mild anxiety about people living with in 6 and 8 bedroom houses over the years. A mix of either singles in each bedroom or an everyday spouse, or someone who drop by occasionally. It was a new town to me. My girl knew all these people, because they'd all lived here the whole time. I was the new man on the block. All was going OK, but when the two of us split (her choice), the world collapsed around me. She was my social life here. Nobody wants to know me any more. My closest uni mates have gone elsewhere. That was a huge loss. Less of a handful left.

I always have problems with a good friend's partner, if they're not quite the same. I don't choose not to like them automatically. I'm open, sympathetic, comprising on everything. This sentence applies to EVERY new person, eg. boss, etc... I have that curious X-factor in life, where everyone are sure that I'm weird, and I hate everyone who's not like me

I will never ever want to speak to anybody in any office I've been in before, or ever in future. That's a closed book. I don't like 'run of the mill' people, who say "how are you? OK? Alright?" apart from a boss