CHAKRAPOINT
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there was this tym i was with my sister,brother and mom and an
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People think i'm gunna b a murderer,child molester or anything negative
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Such situations can be unfortunate.
There are people on OCD forums who fear they might be molesters or such themselves.. It can be a very difficult situation..
Have you tried talking to your family about this?
If you are sure you have no tendencies toward this, just try to be as normal as possible, and maybe when you get a more social life or a steady girlfriend, all this will be forgotten?
Maybe just keep a little distance from kids on such occasions and make sure anything you do is 'appropriate'..? (It can be difficult with kids, I know... Teachers have to be careful with such things too..)
Maybe there is a relative with some 'issues' in the family and they're just not telling you about it? (Families can have secrets that can really influence lives, even when nothing is said about them...) Or people have own problems and then extrapolate on others?
I think if the kiddie came to you, you are apparently a likeable person, so that is something to build on. Parents or other people can have all sorts of irrational beliefs. Sometimes it's enough to talk about stuff or just focus on other things... (and prove them with time that they were wrong)
There are people on OCD forums who fear they might be molesters or such themselves.. It can be a very difficult situation..
Have you tried talking to your family about this?
If you are sure you have no tendencies toward this, just try to be as normal as possible, and maybe when you get a more social life or a steady girlfriend, all this will be forgotten?
Maybe just keep a little distance from kids on such occasions and make sure anything you do is 'appropriate'..? (It can be difficult with kids, I know... Teachers have to be careful with such things too..)
Maybe there is a relative with some 'issues' in the family and they're just not telling you about it? (Families can have secrets that can really influence lives, even when nothing is said about them...) Or people have own problems and then extrapolate on others?
I think if the kiddie came to you, you are apparently a likeable person, so that is something to build on. Parents or other people can have all sorts of irrational beliefs. Sometimes it's enough to talk about stuff or just focus on other things... (and prove them with time that they were wrong)
CHAKRAPOINT
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i know that i will never harm i child even though
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Hm, probably you didn't have a really good psychologist then.. I hear it depends on who you get. (Never been to one either, I've read a bunch of books on this though.) There are LOTS of different sorts of therapies out there, some are more or less helpful.
Consider reading The Feeling Good Handbook by Dr David Burns, it really helped me in the past. It gives basic principles of CBT=Cognitive Behavioural Therapy, which can be really helpful with depression and anxiety too.
What is worse, your parents and family may be 'worriers' too (mine are!) Not sure if I can help you with that one though. There was some help for dealing with people who criticise too much in the book 'Dealing with Difficult People' by Rick Kirschner and Rick Brinkman. There are other books on how to deal with criticism too.. Hmm, where did I post that list of helpful books? - Though this is really quite bizarre and more in the fear/'accusations' or 'prejudice' area.. There are lots of people who were not particularly sociable and they turned out just fine too.. - Though maybe they are just concerned about you and want you to be more sociable? /sigh/ Maybe you are also just a 'scapegoat' or 'black sheep' so they don't have to focus on their own problems?
By 'cultural' do you mean they go to art exhibitions and theatre and such? (And don't talk about 'low' things?)
Consider reading The Feeling Good Handbook by Dr David Burns, it really helped me in the past. It gives basic principles of CBT=Cognitive Behavioural Therapy, which can be really helpful with depression and anxiety too.
What is worse, your parents and family may be 'worriers' too (mine are!) Not sure if I can help you with that one though. There was some help for dealing with people who criticise too much in the book 'Dealing with Difficult People' by Rick Kirschner and Rick Brinkman. There are other books on how to deal with criticism too.. Hmm, where did I post that list of helpful books? - Though this is really quite bizarre and more in the fear/'accusations' or 'prejudice' area.. There are lots of people who were not particularly sociable and they turned out just fine too.. - Though maybe they are just concerned about you and want you to be more sociable? /sigh/ Maybe you are also just a 'scapegoat' or 'black sheep' so they don't have to focus on their own problems?
By 'cultural' do you mean they go to art exhibitions and theatre and such? (And don't talk about 'low' things?)
CHAKRAPOINT
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thanx,will luk into it. yeah i think their just concerned but its hard to tell them bout SA.
goldatom
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I can't have small talk with kids too and be cheery around them. The funny thing is, I remember that when I was a child, any adult who wouldn't talk to me and smile at me while talking to my parents, would appear to me to be cold and not likable. But now that I'm an adult, I probably come across the same to kids.
nightcrawler
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It sounds selfish I know, but this is one of the reasons why I don't want kids - they are just too unpredictable and attract too much attention. If I was using public transport and had a baby/child it would be a social phobic's nightmare!
I sometimes worry that people label me as potentially dangerous - single guy, late 30's, lives alone...there must be something wrong with him
By the way CHAKRAPOINT - spellchecker dude!
I sometimes worry that people label me as potentially dangerous - single guy, late 30's, lives alone...there must be something wrong with him
By the way CHAKRAPOINT - spellchecker dude!