People that mistreat you and then lie about it.

[AtTheGates]

Has anyone ever had this happen to them? people mistreat you because they know you're vulnerable and they think they can actually get away with it because you dont have any good friends to stand up for you. I think thats why loners are more likely to be targeted in certain situations because they're basically just easy prey. its one of the reasons why I never tell anyone too much about myself unless there's someone else present to vouch for everything iv said just so no one can flip my words around or take them out of context just to make me look bad. Thats happened to me on MORE than one occasion. it hasnt happened in a long time but im still paranoid about that kind of stuff. I cant open up to people or get close to anyone because I worry that they'll just get the wrong impression about me or use my own words against me (out of context) and convince a bunch of people that im some kind of weirdo. it doesnt seem like it should be too difficult for people to just be HONEST and not exagerate or lie about things. I cant stand people like that. The kind of people that say stuff like "I tell it like it is" but then they literally NEVER do.

its like if you dont have a good social circle to shield you from gossip and slanderous words then people can pretty much say WHATEVER they want about you and get away with it because no one stands up to prevent it from happening.

 

[Graeme1988]

Aye, a fair few times.

 

[Argentum]

Closest thing I've had is really flaky people who make up a bajillion excuses for their behavior, whether it's being sick or preferring to talk at specific times. I've had people come into my life, be personable, and then stop communicating immediately after I respond with the same... only to come back later and repeat the cycle. I wouldn't judge them for not feeling a connection, but it pissed me off that they'd keep wasting my time.

I survive elsewhere mainly by not saying much of anything that could be used against me in the first place. The less there is to suspect, the less anyone is going to want to target me.

 

[jayfan]

Yea....
My ex wife would do this to me all the time. She is a sociopath and has the gift of gab. I'm quiet with a speech impediment and don't have much of a way with words.... So of course I'm not a very convincing person. So the truth was whatever she said it was and it was bs. She was a convincing lier....

 

[NamiraWilhelm]

We all scream vulnerability and people so easily sniff that out and attack it. We like to think we're evolved but we're still so primitive like that. All we can do is work on ourselves to become the sort of person they don't think they can get away with being a git to :/

 

[AtTheGates]

Yea....
My ex wife would do this to me all the time. She is a sociopath and has the gift of gab. I'm quiet with a speech impediment and don't have much of a way with words.... So of course I'm not a very convincing person. So the truth was whatever she said it was and it was bs. She was a convincing lier....

I was born with a stuttering problem too. I know how hard that can be. I had slight oxygen deprivation at birth which resulted in a speech impediment but iv grown out of it for the most part.(through speech lessons) I still stutter when I talk but iv been able to disguise it by saying "umm" and "uhhh" in between words..people just assume im thinking what to say next but im really just trying to cover up my stuttering problem. when I was a kid it was REALLY bad though. I could barely finish a sentence without stuttering extremely...so I just learned how to be quiet and not bother people and that habit really just STUCK throughout my youth and even into my adulthood. when you dont talk much SOME people just jump at the oppurtunity to put words in your mouth. its ****ed up.

 

[AtTheGates]

I hate when people try to manipulate you but you can see through it and then they get mad because you arent stupid enough to give in to their bullshit...it would probably be easier for me to make friends if I was just stupid or something. I hate being right all the time..its like I just KNOW that people are going to **** with me before it even happens.

 

[andsorry]

I've had this done to me by several so called best friends, my sisters, and some friends. I've learned you can't trust everybody. I no longer speak to most of these people. However, the ones that I do speak to I just keep it casual. I had even got attacked once when one of my so called bestie lied on me. When the negative rumors spread, I just ignore it and act like I have no idea what's being said. I as well have a hard time trusting other people, but I rather be safe and control what little information get out.