People being nice, regardless

[den1]

I've got this mate who I've known for a few years, he's a bit older than me, he's 27 and I'm 24.

For some reason I have never been able to really be myself around him because I sometimes feel a bit intimadated because he is quite mature and a strong person, he wouldn't take shit from anyone.

He got me a job as a kitchen porter in a pub where he is head chef with another one of his mates who is simalar to him in a few ways.

When I'm working they will be messing around and being loud doing the crazy shit that I would usually do at home but for some reason I just clam up and can't really join in.

I might go a whole day without hardly saying 2 words but for some reason the other two guys there show me alot of respect and are really nice to me.

I don't really know why because I must come across as being a moody bastard or something but they always want me to go for a beer with them after work and even come in on my days off to meet up with them for a drink when they finnish which I do admit after a few beers I am a joker myself.

I was wondering if anyone else is similar in this way, that people seem to take a liking to you and you really don't know why.



















Might be a bit of a shit post this one actually lol

 

[StocksGuy]

I kind of had a similar experiance when i was in high school. One semester in PE, there was a guy who always held off people from bullying me whenever he was around. While i'm not sure why, i think that it struck a nerve in him. Maybe in your case, you remind them of someone they know, or in some way remind them of themselves in someway, especially if they are identifying with you because of how they were when they were younger. Also, the guy you knew a while, maybe he guinuenly likes you. I mean, people like people who listin. If you don't talk much, maybe he thinks you are a good listiner and likes you to be there and simply doesn't realize y u are quiet. He might even be hoping to get you more comfortable so that you will be more talkative.

 

[recluse]

I feel the same way. With some people i can be relaxed and quite talkative at times but other people who are confident make me nervous. I think i feel relaxed with people who have a similar personality to mine.

 

[coriander1992]

I get this quite a lot - people liking you for no reason.
I recently went on a summer camp, and I barely spoke to anybody unless spoken to, but I was in with the main group of friends, and they all liked me and stood up for me, even if they did think i was slightly weird.
Maybe it's a case of people feeling sorry for you?

 

[flake__]

this is a good thread!

i avoid all the people living on the same floor as me at uni, so probs appear anti-social or snobby. Once at breakfast this girl recognised me and came over and introduced herself. I stammered a reply back without smiling and didn't talk for the whole of breakfast, cos of fear obviously, but appeared rude/grumpy. Then a couple of days later i heard the people on my floor about to start hammering on my door again, and the girl said, Oh no, i've met her, she's really nice. They left my door alone. I could have hugged her!

Some people are just lovely like that.

 

[maggie]

I've got this mate who I've known for a few years, he's a bit older than me, he's 27 and I'm 24.

For some reason I have never been able to really be myself around him because I sometimes feel a bit intimadated because he is quite mature and a strong person, he wouldn't take shit from anyone.

He got me a job as a kitchen porter in a pub where he is head chef with another one of his mates who is simalar to him in a few ways.

When I'm working they will be messing around and being loud doing the crazy shit that I would usually do at home but for some reason I just clam up and can't really join in.

I might go a whole day without hardly saying 2 words but for some reason the other two guys there show me alot of respect and are really nice to me.

I don't really know why because I must come across as being a moody bastard or something but they always want me to go for a beer with them after work and even come in on my days off to meet up with them for a drink when they finnish which I do admit after a few beers I am a joker myself.

I was wondering if anyone else is similar in this way, that people seem to take a liking to you and you really don't know why.



















Might be a bit of a shit post this one actually lol

no, it's not a shit post..the same thing is true for me den1..at work, even though i hardly talk to anyone, or take part in stuff..people seem to really respect me, and still want to talk to me..and ask me to hang out..which surprises me cause i always make up a lameass excuse why i can't :wink:

 

[LaLaLa]

haha, yeah. Some people just are. Itdoes make me feel bad because I don't know how to be sweet to them back and can't befriend them.

Back in school, when I first went to secondary, people were constantly trying to befriend me and make me smile but I still looked so boring, dull and blank-faced. Couldn't help it. Of course it put people off after some time. I'm too much of a waste of effort so can't blame them for not being patient with me. :? I was lucky to have some nice people in my class at the time. Later was hell... :x It's always the loud, talkative, confident ones that scare me most. It's impossible for me to be friends with those types. :roll: ok...maybe it is possible but I would always feel intimidated and inferior with them around... I usedt o have this really loud friend and I could barely talk to her sometimes.


I remember once there were a pair of siblings that used to come over to my house and play around, I would always lock myself up in my own room whilst they try to bash my door open. I hate it. The brother told me to open up the door cause his sister wanted to be friends with me. I felt so stupid but they were a little rude to be trying to force me out like that. 8O

 

[maggie]

haha, yeah. Some people just are. Itdoes make me feel bad because I don't know how to be sweet to them back and can't befriend them.

Back in school, when I first went to secondary, people were constantly trying to befriend me and make me smile but I still looked so boring, dull and blank-faced. Couldn't help it. Of course it put people off after some time. I'm too much of a waste of effort so can't blame them for not being patient with me. :? I was lucky to have some nice people in my class at the time. Later was hell... :x It's always the loud, talkative, confident ones that scare me most. It's impossible for me to get along with those. :roll:

same for me LaLa..and what you said about being blank-faced..made me think of when i'm at work and one of the girls will say.."ahh, wait till i tell you this, you're gonna laugh your ass off"..then they tell me and i'm like..hmm..can't even force a laugh..i hate that :evil:

 

[LaLaLa]

That reminds me of something else. My teacher once told a joke, I wasn't paying any attention to it so had no idea what they were talking about, then he looked at me and said, 'oh come on, it's a joke, goddamn it!' What? I wasn't even listening! :x Even if I didn't find it funny, so what? :?

 

[maggie]

That reminds me of something else. My teacher once told a joke, I wasn't paying any attention to it so had no idea what they were talking about, then he looked at me and said, 'oh come on, it's a joke, goddamn it!' What? I wasn't even listening! :x Even if I didn't find it funny, so what? :?

oh God, i hate when people tell me jokes, i feel so forced to laugh..cause you know they're telling it for the sole purpose to hear someone laugh..and i just stand there like a dork :?

 

[Doomed2Die]

Yeah oddly enough I was lucky in sec. mainstream school because some people took a liking to me, same kinda with college but on a much less scale... Maybe we in our inward thinking think too little of ourselves?

Maybe there is much to like that simply we cannot see? I think this is true as everytime someone compliments me (even on a logical level I know its correct) I still cannot see whats so great about it, and just shrug embarrased and thank them, this faux-modesty is also a likeable feature in people, lol go figure.

Also, jokes terrify me too :S. Since people are outwardly looking for a response.

 

[LonelyGirl]

When I was in secondary school there was this girl who somehow seemed to be able to understand me. I barely said a word to her and yet she completely understood how difficult it was for me to talk, even though she was very outgoing and confident. We were in almost every class together for three years. She sat next to me and talked to me the same way she talked to everybody else even though she didn't get much of a response. She always looked out for me and one of my teachers once referred to her as my guardian angel. At the end of year eleven I left school and she stayed in the sixth form. Just before I left she asked if she could have a word in private. She took me outside and told me it was a shame I was leaving and she would love for me to come back. Then she said 'I know you're a nice person 'cause I can see it in your eyes'. She was the nicest most understanding person I've ever met. She even gave me her phone number so we could keep in touch, but it took me months to force myself to phone her and her number had changed by then. I wish I'd kept in touch. I don't think I'll ever meet anyone else like her.

 

[LaLaLa]

When I was in secondary school there was this girl who somehow seemed to be able to understand me. I barely said a word to her and yet she completely understood how difficult it was for me to talk, even though she was very outgoing and confident. We were in almost every class together for three years. She sat next to me and talked to me the same way she talked to everybody else even though she didn't get much of a response. She always looked out for me and one of my teachers once referred to her as my guardian angel. At the end of year eleven I left school and she stayed in the sixth form. Just before I left she asked if she could have a word in private. She took me outside and told me it was a shame I was leaving and she would love for me to come back. Then she said 'I know you're a nice person 'cause I can see it in your eyes'. She was the nicest most understanding person I've ever met. She even gave me her phone number so we could keep in touch, but it took me months to force myself to phone her and her number had changed by then. I wish I'd kept in touch. I don't think I'll ever meet anyone else like her.

Awww, do you have facebook? You might be able to come into contact with lot of old classmates on there.

 

[Waybuloo]

When I was in secondary school there was this girl who somehow seemed to be able to understand me. I barely said a word to her and yet she completely understood how difficult it was for me to talk, even though she was very outgoing and confident. We were in almost every class together for three years. She sat next to me and talked to me the same way she talked to everybody else even though she didn't get much of a response. She always looked out for me and one of my teachers once referred to her as my guardian angel. At the end of year eleven I left school and she stayed in the sixth form. Just before I left she asked if she could have a word in private. She took me outside and told me it was a shame I was leaving and she would love for me to come back. Then she said 'I know you're a nice person 'cause I can see it in your eyes'. She was the nicest most understanding person I've ever met. She even gave me her phone number so we could keep in touch, but it took me months to force myself to phone her and her number had changed by then. I wish I'd kept in touch. I don't think I'll ever meet anyone else like her.

That's a touching story and it sounds like she's a one of a million kind of person. I wish I had a friend like that at school. In my experience school kids almost always would lose interest in you if you don't respond and warm to them and won't stick around long to give you sympathy company.

 

[desperate]

That reminds me of something else. My teacher once told a joke, I wasn't paying any attention to it so had no idea what they were talking about, then he looked at me and said, 'oh come on, it's a joke, goddamn it!' What? I wasn't even listening! :x Even if I didn't find it funny, so what? :?

LOL. This is a cute story. Don't blame the teacher. Believe it or not, out there, people who we consider normal get also very insecure when someone doesnt find them funny. Everybody out there tries to get accepted as much as we do, so, no need to give a damn about his joke, he's no funny, that's great you didn't go like me....when I start begging them to repeat the story...that's lame! :wink:

 

[Waybuloo]

That reminds me of something else. My teacher once told a joke, I wasn't paying any attention to it so had no idea what they were talking about, then he looked at me and said, 'oh come on, it's a joke, goddamn it!' What? I wasn't even listening! :x Even if I didn't find it funny, so what? :?

LOL. This is a cute story. Don't blame the teacher. Believe it or not, out there, people who we consider normal get also very insecure when someone doesnt find them funny. Everybody out there tries to get accepted as much as we do, so, no need to give a damn about his joke, he's no funny, that's great you didn't go like me....when I start begging them to repeat the story...that's lame! :wink:

Or how about when I laugh before he barely finished saying 'hey guess what I did the yesterday'

 

[Purplelemon187]

i feel the same way some people like me and i dont really talk much, but thats negative thoughts and social phobia thats telling you theres no reason, just cause we are quiter doesnt mean that we are horriable poeple, not everyone is loud and sometimes people like to be listened to. its a good quality to be agood listener and there must be something that these people like about us otherwise they wont bother, we need to stop putting presure on our selves and acept that being quite is not bad.

 

[desperate]

lol I know, we're lame my friend :lol:

That reminds me of something else. My teacher once told a joke, I wasn't paying any attention to it so had no idea what they were talking about, then he looked at me and said, 'oh come on, it's a joke, goddamn it!' What? I wasn't even listening! :x Even if I didn't find it funny, so what? :?

LOL. This is a cute story. Don't blame the teacher. Believe it or not, out there, people who we consider normal get also very insecure when someone doesnt find them funny. Everybody out there tries to get accepted as much as we do, so, no need to give a damn about his joke, he's no funny, that's great you didn't go like me....when I start begging them to repeat the story...that's lame! :wink:

Or how about when I laugh before he barely finished saying 'hey guess what I did the yesterday'