Parents trying to socialize you?

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PapaSmurf

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Im 18 and going to college and still live with my mom.

I have SAD and am female-challenged as in a huge fear of women, never had a gf, never kissed one...etc.. and all that crap i think were all tired of hearing.

Anyway, do you guys constantly get hassled to go out and socialize by your parents and get really angry when they do?
My mom says things like
" Why dont you go out and see a freind" or " why dont you go out and socialize" and when she says things like this it has the completer opposite effect, IT Makes me wanna lock myself in my room and never come out.

I also get angry when anyone ever mentions me and women or my lack of relationaship experience.

I get very angry when this happens and punch and bite things ( i know that sounds weird).

Anyone have similar experiences
 
Harleyq

Harleyq

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My parents don't get angry, but my dad does nag me sometimes to call a friend or go out. It just makes me go silent and things get extremely uncomfortable for a few minutes.
 
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PapaSmurf

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"..and things get extremely uncomfortable for a few minutes."

yeah totally anytime the opposite sex and me come up in conversation i have the same reaction.

I wish i had never been..
 
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Nack

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Op are you sure you're not me? Cuz we have a lot of similarities... cept for the bothering to go socialize. Its more from my siblings than my mom.
 
lurknomore

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My parents never tried to socialize me when I was younger... maybe that's part of my problem. They never seemed to care that I was pretty much a loner, or only had a few friends that I never even saw outside of school.

While I think it's probably a good thing that your parents care about your social life and want to make sure you have a healthy one, I think that the push to socialize should start happening before you hit your teenage years. They should make sure that you are learning the proper way to interact with people and to get used to the inevitable rejections early on so that things will perhaps be a touch easier to deal with during adolescence, which is already difficult enough because of puberty. As you get older, it becomes less acceptable (i.e. embarrassing) for your parents to be the ones trying to "match you up" with people, and you should know how to make friends on your own and know which types or groups of people you would feel most comfortable with.
 
Jake123

Jake123

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brianwarming said:
ONCE, I had the following conversation with my mom when I was 21 :

<my mom> ehm, don't you want a girlfriend ?
<me> blah, blah, blah, I'm ugly blah, blah ...
<my mom> ...... .... .... ... <silence> ... ...

THE END

My grandmother overheard the conversation, and after my mom left the room, she came in, put her hand on my shoulder and gave me some money. She then left the room without saying a word.

THE END


IF any of you guys get ugly children, then LIE ! LIE LIE , never tell them the truth :)
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lol I love all your posts they're hilarious. And I love how you marked up the conversation to make it look like an IM. You have the overwhelmingly negative-but-funny attitude I adore <3
 
Anomaly

Anomaly

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brianwarming said:
Thanks, :D, Don't you EVER sleep ? It seems you’re always online ?
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Jake just watches you sleep
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AGR

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Only one time when I was still in school,my mom had a friend who had a daughter(she was like the most beautiful girl in the school) and they kinda tried to hook us up, I didnt mind ::p:,but apparently I was too ugly to her.:D
 
Social_Monstrosity

Social_Monstrosity

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My parents (especially my dad) used to do that, but now he's given up and just figures I'll live the life of a hermit the rest of my life. >_>
 
redski

redski

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Serafina said:
lol The reason for giving the money was not specified and as far as I'm concerned it was open to interpretation. ::p: One moment the mother mentions a girlfriend and then the next moment the grandma comes in and gives him money. Some grannies are open-minded like that. You never know. :)
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I know, I was just pulling your leg :)

As to PapaSmurf post.
I was a shy kid, this was part my parents fault also I have to admit.
They kind of sheltered me from the world when I was little and then
they except me to go out face the world and socialize which they
had sheltered me from in the first place.
Parents can be, I dare say it, dumb, sometimes.

Do not get pressured or guilted into it. Take things at your own
pace. I mean it is your life after all and not your parents.
 
this_portrait

this_portrait

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My parents don't understand how I can be so talkative around them, and yet not be the same around hardly anyone else.

Whenever I go to concerts alone, my mom always poses this question:: "Can't you find someone to go with you to these concerts, so I don't have to worry about you?" My reply:: "Nope."

It's rather annoying when my parents pressure me to be more social, because I can't, and no matter how many times I tell them I can't, they don't listen.
 
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DillJenkins

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I used to get this quite a lot from my dad mainly. He would try and get me to call people on the phone and stuff cause I have bad phone anxiety.

I never really did call anyone and whenever I did, I would come across as really anxious so it never really helped.

They dont really try socializing me anymore as Im 23 now. They just want me to get a proper job and move out...
 
Aiyieeeee

Aiyieeeee

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My grandmother did it more than anyone else.

She once told me that if I don't hurry up and get a girlfriend, people would start thing something was wrong with me or that I was "gay."

As I got older my aunt started taken notice and began asking me uncomfortable questions: "Hanging out yet?" "Just sitting in your room?" "Are you "gay"?"

When I was younger, all the criticism and questions and poking around really got to me. It was embarrassing and humiliating. Now I could care less. I'll be the first to shut the conversation down and say, "I don't have any friends."

I'm over it. And they should be able to tell by now. As far as never having really had a girlfriend......well I'll let their minds continue to run rampant. I know what they're all thinking and I know some must be scared witless.
 
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